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Down at the Women's Trust Center this morning for checkup. Come to think of it, I didn't get "ma'am" one time while I was there. Okay, in all fairness they used Barbie to address me. All women so..., Let's see, at the restaurant, Best Buy, and Costco it was ma'am. I'm wearing jeans, big ol cowboy belt and big silver buckle, boots black cowgirl felt hat. Okay, a gold satin blouse and I'm a solid 34 C
I swear more people need glasses than what anyone realizes. Make it home, call the VA and get ma'am how may I direct your call. What's your SS, what's your name? Yes, ma'am. I know my voice has always been borderline male, female, most of my life. Half the people I talk to call me ma'am. I have a female voice. My normal voice isn't it. Maybe people need hearing aids with their new glasses?
My favorite perfumes are Truly Lace by Coty and Timeless by Avon. I was wearing Timeless today.
The point I wish to make with the story of how my day went on 9/9/19 is one doesn't need to be a raving beauty queen to be female. Lord knows I'm not, far from it. There are a few GG women who are definitely less female than I'll ever be. We write about the unbelievable traffic stopping, head turning beauty because females look at beautiful women also. It isn't just a male thing. God knows those of us who straddle the Gender Divide are as much female as any GG born that way. (I know the FtM feel the same in their own way) There are definitely more common females then there are the head turning ones. However Cinderella and every great "once upon a time" story" is told about the exceptionally gifted, classical beauty, or handsome, masculine prince. Thus we usually write about the fairy princess because we live in the normal world. And nobody wants to read about how I fought, growled, moaned, threatened my computer all day the day before. Truly a Debbie Downer day. I was called that after I answer the phone. "Someone having a bad day?" "gggggggrrrrrrrr"
hugs all
Barb
"May you never"
hugs 'Samantha
When we were young it took a kazillion years to reach sixteen and "legally" drive. LOL, I was driving, pickups, cars, tractors and heavy equipment for eleven years before I reached sixteen. It took another million years to reach twenty one. Funny, but who shortened the years into a week or two? They go by so fast I forget which year I'm living in at the present.
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But when it comes to me, everybody says one out of the two aint bad, right?
^_^
Regarding Beauty Queens
One of my biggest fears is not being passable enough. So I thought I would share 2 thoughts on the matter. The first one came from a very wise person who wrote to me:
"I'm a big person and not passable, yet when I look in the mirror I see "pretty" -- and that matters."
The second one was my counselor on a session I had with her last Friday, in which coincidentally she mentioned something very similar to what Barb said.
"You are concerned about your body and being passable? There are different types of GG women, just look at Serena Williams... The fear you have is very real, yet now a days the line is a lot more fluid, people are more aware and tolerant. Nevertheless be aware for your safety."
Hope the above helps
Hugs
Gabi
Xtrim
Its not the tone of voice
It's not the tone of voice but the way you speak. Women tend to phrase things differently and use slightly different emphasis to men. You may not realize that but somebody who just hears your voice will pick up on that and make assumptions.
In public, faced with a person whose looks could indicate either gender, the voice can often be a deciding factor. Of course, not everyone is that sensitive to such signals so they'll sometimes get it wrong.
The downside of this is that you can be mistaken for one gender when you want to be treated as the other.
Penny