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This is what I first wrote as a comment to: Pen Pals, 13 by Anistasia Allread. She wrote: "Hello again from St. George, the hottest place on Earth." This was my reaction. Title was "Hotter elsewhere in AZ"

St. George, Utah is about 7 miles north of the AZ state line and 25 miles east of the NV state line. My state map of AZ has it's elevation at 2880 feet. Phoenix is at about 1000 ft. I live in Tempe, next to and SE of Phoenix. The all time (like in the last 120 years)high temperature in Phoenix is 122 ° F. I'm sure it doesn't get that hot in St.George. Also, in this area, it seems like temperatures are lower by 5 ° for every 1000 feet gain in elevation.

The hottest AZ locations, mentioned in local weather reports, are often Bullhead City (on the Colorado River) at 700 ft. and Lake Havasu City, also on the Colorado, at 600 ft. I think their record highs are just short of 130 ° F. Yuma is lower still, but I guess it's temperature is moderated a little because it's closer to the Gulf of California. Yuma has the mildest winters. Flagstaff, 110 miles north of and 6000 ft. higher in elevation than Phoenix is uniformly 30 ° cooler

Now, let me explain. I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is a sort of high functioning autism. Weather, elevation, location and those kind of technical things somehow seem really fascinating and worth knowing to me. If I think of writing to someone, like maybe my bother or sister, I immediately begin composing paragraphs about how the weather has been, why that is, what's going to happen next, etc. I know enough not to actually include much weather news. I also react, almost as strongly, to anything that sounds like it needs an answer involving physics, mechanical engineering, cosmology, etc.

My difficulty with and one of the characteristics of Asperger's is that I have a social and nonverbal communications learning disability. All my adult life, people (partners, etc.) have told me how I've said really weird things or asked weird questions. I'd never figured out what normal social communications were supposed to be. If a thought or question occurred to me, I'd check to see if it were gross or hurtful to someone (and I didn't think too hard or long in this appropriateness check) then just say it. I guess I said things that were not relevant to any subjects others had brought up or questions a professor could answer, but not the ordinary people I was talking with. I've read that the pattern is like, I'll be talking, but I can't read the clues from others that they're not interested. If I pause, someone else starts talking on a different subject and I feel hurt that I was interrupted and nobody cared about my attempt at conversation. After a while, people stay away so they won't have a conversation with me.

At work, which gave me gender dysphoria, even though I was in denial about it, I kept having a strange feeling. I felt left out of the secret that everyone else knew. It seemed like I had missed a briefing or a one day class that would have told me how I was supposed to get my job accomplished. Everyone else seemed to know what they were doing, but nobody had clued me in.

Now days, I can make 'small-talk' with a checkout clerk and not feel nervous. I guess occasionally they'll be scratching their heads after I leave. (But I don't worry about it) What does make me nervous, and what I've just about stopped doing is trying to make friends with people (which would mainly be wimyn bicyclists) or having an in-depth conversation with someone I sort of know. It just doesn't work. Most of the wimyn I've tried to get to know, and managed to remember their names, end up never including me in their conversations. It's possible that others in the group have told them that I'm TS. Apparently nobody notices it when I first meet'em. I know that a few people know and they treat me OK, neither good nor bad. I guess I don't know about the (silent) majority.

I guess that's about all I can think of at present.
Renee

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Hi, Renee

erin's picture

I have several Asperger's friends and enjoy their company. I'm long-winded and uber-nerdy, too, but my problem is ADD. :)

Numbers fascinate me. When really bored, I write down columns of numbers, add them up, multiply them and make friends with them. This was what I was usually doing in history class since I had read the text book the first week. :)

You're not that odd. In fact, I suspect that if we added up all the factors, your parity might be even. :)

Got to go now, the washer is making an interesting noise.

Hugs,
Erin

= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.

= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.

One of my best friends

has Aspergers. I like to talk to him a lot because even without ADD or anything like that I tend to geek out on something for a bit until I wildly tangent out again. Ninety eight percent of our conversations center around post apocalyptic governments and space colonization.

Melanie E.

aspergers

Hi, Renee. You may already suspect that most of the authors and probably readers too are somewhere on the Asperger's/Autism spectrum. I suspect it, certainly. So you're in good company here. :-)

Have you been watching the new sitcom Big Bang Theory? It's in summer reruns right now. It's about two ultranerdy scientists named Sheldon and Leonard (Sheldon Leonard was an actor, and as a producer was a huge seminal influence in early television.) Sheldon (the tall one's Sheldon, right?) is a comical study in Asperger's. The more you yourself have it and aware of what you have, the more laughs you will likely get from his classically Asperger's behavior. The apartment across the hall is occupied by a perfectly normal and average, and very pretty, girl. The acting by the three principals, and the two who play their equally nerdy scientist friends, is very good. The writing is usually even better. It usually evokes the kind of laughter that is only possible where there is understanding and sympathy. I think it is also building more understanding, empathy, and compassion between audience members who are "normal" and those of us somewhere "on the spectrum".

I also know people who have asperger's/autism badly enough that it really impairs their ability to function and to be happy. When that starts happening, it's no joke. I'm afraid all those decades of ever increasing dumping into the environment of ever newer toxins are coming back to roost. Roost on our children, that is.

Anyway, embrace your inner nerd. Chicks dig nerds. You just have to give them time, sometimes. And being a cyclist is becoming more cool every week, it seems like. :-)

Annie
"The economy is a wholly owned subsidiary of the environment, not the other way around."

Hello!

Renee!

Welcome to BCTS! Here Geekie Nerds are the norm I think! Just get one of us started on our pet passion and watch out!

hugs!

grover

The Great Nation of Utah, sometime called Deseret.

Puddintane's picture

Actually, St. George is only the hottest place in Utah, and by no means the USA. That honour belongs to Death Valley, California, where the daytime temperatures can reach up to 130 degress Fahrenheit, or 54 Celsius. The hottest temperature ever recorded was 134 degrees Fahrenheit, or 56.7 Celsius at what was then called "Greenland Ranch" but is now Furnace Creek. I reckon the joke got a little stale after the first hundred years.

El Azizia, Libya holds the current record worldwide, at 136 degrees Fahrenhet and 58 Celsius, but who's counting? In actuality, it's undoubtedly true that many places have exceeded the recorded maximums, because people find it difficult to live in the worst extremes of heat, so there are no handy weather stations to capture the moment.

Cheers,

Puddin'

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Cheers,

Puddin'

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Degrees of nerdyness?

Angharad's picture

I am neither geek nor nerd, nor Asperger's as far as I know. However, I do sometimes see patients with it,(although I'm not treating it) one such yesterday, which proved interesting. He offered me much more information about himself than I needed and certainly more than the average patient (usually knows).

My biggest challenge was making sure that everything I said was absolutely correct, because he'd probably remember every word of it. His social skills were a little 'unusual' but then I was aware of his diagnosis before I saw him, and that maybe made me hypersensitive. However, conversation was fine and we passed the time of the appointment without any problems.

I'm sure that many people are borderline Asperger's and I have seen quite a few over the years who had me wondering. Then like so many things, it isn't black and white and there are degrees of it, like the transgender spectrum, with transsexualism at one end and perhaps an occasional desire to cross dress at the other.

Angharad

PS the temperature in Dorset at the moment is slightly below Death Valley, (unless you were going to die from hypothermia!)They're also below the seasonal average :(

Angharad

Death Valley gets ripped off

Furnace Creek is not in the hottest part of the Valley. That would be either Badwater, the lowest point in the US or out on the nearby alkali flats. If they took the measurements in either of those places, it would nearly always be the hottest, possibly surpassing the interior of Libya --- AKA the Sahara -- or the interior of the Arabian Peninsula.

John in Wauwatosa

John in Wauwatosa

I ♥ Death Valley

laika's picture

Been there probably 7 times, but never later than early June, when it was doggone hot.
I suppose a person could go there in July or August but I just can't imagine WHY.
In winter you can hike around one of the most eerily beautiful places on Earth.
In spring (if it rains that year), all these flowers and little critters come out
of nowhere. It's amazing. And Panamint Valley next door is pretty spectacular too...
Unlike so many National Parks, I've never seen it real crowded (guess the name scares folks away.)

And oh, I liked your blog Renee. I've found BCTS to be a place where I am generally
better understood than a lot of places. It's like all the sudden my Universal Translator
is working like it should. (I don't know that I have Aspergers, but I do have Assburgers
Syndrome. I ate too many burgers and now I have this huge, uh, bottom. Sigh...
I can put up with your weather minutae if you'll can put up with this
awful compulsion I have to tell awful puns.)
~~~hugs, Laika

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