Can anyone explain where a particular fear might have come from?
I am transitioning, don't own any male clothes, run around in a bikini or dress and heels with not one issue.
so, WTF is making the idea of putting my pic online en-fem terrifying?
It just doesn't make sense, no problem walking down the street in a dress, and yet can't post a pic of me wearing one online.
edit to add:
I'm 100% out, everyone that sees me knows I'm in transition, that is why it is odd. that I am bothered by the idea of putting my pic online.
don't do it!
It can come back to haunt you many many years from now.
Nobody online needs to know what you look like. Reserve that for people who meet you in person.
Dayna.
Generally, I don't put my
Generally, I don't put my photo online.
just reading some of Maeryn's stories got me thinking, and I realized the idea of putting my pic online really bothered me.
Stupidity is a capital offense. A summary not indictable.
Take your time
In my opinion, T folk tend to be overly exhibitionistic. You use a bikini, where? Depending on your age, the hem line of a a dress or skirt should never be much over the knee. Sure, I see girls 13-20 with hem lines mid-thigh, but even for them, I see it as unseemly, though they can get away with it if they are smart about where they go and how late they are out.
T girls are 7 times more likely to be murdered, so we need to be shrewd about it all.
Gwen
lol
yup, we do frequently exhibit to much.
as for the bikini, the beach, or patio at home, naturally.
and by the time a skirt/dress is reaching mid thigh I'm starting to think about leggings under it.
though in many ways I'm extremely lucky when it comes to transitioning.
5' 9.5"
140 pounds
36a/b 28 36.5
naturally smooth torso, very little facial hair, and never did bulk up much in my upper body build.
here in Canada, retail shops I fit off the rack from mainstream shops. [ from size 0 to size 8, depending on the maker's sizing measure ]
walked into a boutique friday before last, picked out two dresses, one of which the owner needed to remove from a display to get my size, and she just put them into the change room automatically for me to try on, didn't even phase her to have a trans woman walk in. so where I live specifically, is very open and accepting for us. :)
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I'm not TS, but I will agree
I'm not TS, but I will agree with the above.
Don't post a photo. Especially don't post a photo where it can be connected with your RL persona.
If you want to share one, that's fine, but do it one on one, and not through a major social networking site.
very small photos, such as are here for avatars, should be safe.
I'll get a life when it's proven and substantiated to be better than what I'm currently experiencing.
Even Sharing with individuals can blow up on you!
Don't believe me... You should see how man 'real' women have BF/GF who have a fight with them or break up and boom instant photos are online and usually not with flattering comments.
Dayna.
That is true.
Any relationship can have things like that happen.
I know I have been incredibly lucky, in that all of my ex gfs and bfs are still friends, we get together for coffee once in a while to catch up.
or intimate relationship(fs) ended, but the friendship(s) didn't.
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I have a stack of those. I
I have a stack of those. I don't share. They're _mine_.
I don't care how badly I was treated by the people who sent them to me. They're still mine :)
I'll get a life when it's proven and substantiated to be better than what I'm currently experiencing.
Not a TG thing just rational fear, especially for a woman
There are many, many people who regardless of history wish they could erase their online identity
Rhona McCloud
Nothing odd here.
I don't want any pictures of me anywhere on the internet.
Seriously...
Seriously, Dawnfyre, the internet can be a very scary place. Just ask 4chan.
Peace be with you and Blessed be
I would agree with most,
in that the internet IS a very scary place. Unless you are so secure and accepted in your chosen life that you have no fears of being outed, do NOT post photos of yourself dressed in any way. The world is full of predators who will gladly take advantage of anyone or anything they perceive as vulnerable. You won't like what you'll get back from posting photos.
I have posted my pic here at Top Shelf and it's on my email and skype, but it's only a head and shoulders pic and I have nothing to hide from anyone. Everyone who knows me, who counts, knows all about me and my chosen life.
I don't DO facebook or any of those "social media" things because I don't trust any of them as far as I can throw my 1994 Ford Crown Victoria.. one handed... from my knees... blindfolded... into a head wind.
Catherine Linda Michel
As a T-woman, I do have a Y chromosome... it's just in cursive, pink script.
worry about being outed?
not to likely since I'm completely out. :)
my niece and nephews grew up calling me Aunt, not Uncle.
yup, my family stuck with me, even my grands. :)
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