Every person is unique unto themselves. There are general guidelines for different truck drivers, plumbers, doctors. There are also norms for what girls should look like and how she should act in society. The same for boys. Act within society's guidelines unless you are one of those who want to flaunt "it".
Personally because I am NOT into body art of any kind, this video was rough. As far as the voice training segment of the video I totally disagree with her shifting. She needs to get into female pitch and range and nail it closed. Most GG girls have a rising falling lilt to their voice. It makes their words pleasing to the ears. It is their siren song to draw in men even though most never understand how or why because it comes so naturally.
For the M+F raising the pitch isn't always the best answer. Listen to yourself on a tape for days, weeks if need be, as you try to find that range that is your female half. Remember Paula Prentiss, Suzanne Pleshette? Drop an octave more or less and see if that's your real voice. Sing and use that voice. Going up and down the scale will help lock it in. Many girls have claimed they totally lost their boy voice. If they ever wanted it back they would need to find it, work at it, and try to hold onto it. Dress for success. Whatever you do look like you have fashion sense of the good classic kind. Leave the fashion wreck at home. Want to pass without being clocked then make damn sure that first eyeball they lay on you transmits "nice..., really nice" back to their brain. There is only ONE first impression. Make sure that one is flattering as it sticks in the mind like superglue. I send out 12X14 glossies to my doctors before I ever meet them after I have made an appointment. Their first impression is going to be me dressed to fit in any society or political event. That picture always ends up in my medical file. I know because I see it when they carry in my medical records before examination.
This is that rough trans video. Worth the time to watch it once.
http://rtd.rt.com/films/transgender-reality/#part-1
This is where you will find hundreds who made it and are living their lives. Enjoy the eye candy and the success stories. One you won't find still there is the NASA Engineer. She was a knock out.
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TSsuccesses/TSsuccess...
Me? I'm androgynous. 5'5 135# People, ma'am or sir me. They aren't always sure. It is usually ma'am when I'm on the phone. Who cares? I'm whatever that other person feels comfortable talking to. They want to talk to a guy, they got it. A woman? No problem.
Those angels on the assembly line thought it was funny to make me a boy-girl. Wait until I get back. Heads will roll. God and me are best buddies.
have fun with life
It's too short to take it seriously. I'm no longer the twenty something traffic stopper. I can still turn heads. Do it with class. Enjoy what God gave you. I know it's rough. If it was easy everyone would want to try it.
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Um... where does the Caution
Um... where does the Caution Suicide thing come from? The movie itself, I hope...
Beyogi
They talk about suicide. None of it happens on the film. Point me to ANY person caught up in the gender blender and I will point to a person who has contemplated suicide. If they say they haven't they are lying to themselves and to others.
I would have done it at five years old. EXCEPT I knew God would correct the error if I prayed to Him.
Miss Las Vegas Jahna Erica Steele (1958 – 2008) showgirl. Until she was outed after winning the title. They stripped her of the title, funds, contracts, etc. and destroyed her
I wish I had got to her before she took her own life. I wasn't that close so I wasn't getting the signs.
http://zagria.blogspot.com/2011/05/jahna-erica-steele-1958-2...
A friend appeared on the Jerry Springer show hopping to enlighten people what transsexuals are and what they aren't.
She was sliced and diced and humiliated to the point of tears. She went home put the car exhaust up into the car and closed the garage door.
The girls are already emotionally strung out trying to cope with the changes both physical and mentally. They need love, support, and to know they aren't alone.
"You saved my life!"
"No you and God figured it out. I was there to listen is all."
"We will be friends forever!"
"You will find new friends who like you and love you for who you are. However I'll always be your friend. If things get rougher than you can handle alone, call me, day or night.God loves you and so do I.
Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl
I think one of the biggest mistakes
a lot of T-girls make is they always want to appear glamorous, regardless of the situation. One of the true keys to acceptance is what I like to call "role camoflage." In short, dress according to the way GGs do. If you're at your local discount grocery/whatever store, an evening gown, makeup designed to impress at the opera or a grand ball and stilt heels are, most likely,out of step with the other shoppers and will probably get one much more attention than one could ever want. Blending in so as to not draw more attention to oneself is the key.
Another thing is one's attitude. If you enter a store with your eyes cast down, not meeting anyone's glances, you will likely be rumbled. If, on the other hand, you walk in like you OWN the place, that tells people that you are proud of who you are and in how you look, and greatly reduces the chances that you will be caught out.
One of the prettiest things a woman can wear is... a SMILE! Now I'm not talking about a jaw stretching, almost sardonic leering kind of smile. I'm talking about a simple "turned up at the corners" pleasant smile that shows you're happy with yourself and with the way you look. It also tells anyone who might be tempted to attempt to "out" you that you are quite aware of where and who you are and disarms most troublemakers.
Role camoflage, proper attitude, situational awareness and a pleasant smile will earn you acceptance, and even respect from those who might 'read" you but are too busy to concern themselves with mischief.
Catherine Linda Michel
As a T-woman, I do have a Y chromosome... it's just in cursive, pink script.
The Conway site
Includes a very good friend of mine.