today is the day i come out to my parents

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my appointment is in just 2 hours

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You go girl!

I'd say good luck Jaden, but you won't need it. Just be yourself and you'll do fine hon. (Hugs) Taarpa

1700 deadline.

I hope everything has gone well, or at least, gone well enough for you to remain in contact. You will need all the support you can get and that of course would hopefully include parental support. They are in a unique position to offer such a huge variety of different supports and if they are imaginative they will sieze this opportunity to prove their continuing love.
Good luck love.

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Beverly

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it went alright

they didn't freak out or anything just didn't believe it, still don't and we discussed some of my other issues. I also need to find a way to schedule more appointments with my therapist before she will write the referral to a doctor, because I start my job on Friday.

hugs :)
Michelle SidheElf Amaianna

this is

very good news. Glad it went well, and good luck in the future.

My parent didn't believe me

My parent didn't believe me at first, my mom came up with stuff about how I was as she said "nothing like a woman", she also said stuff about there being no previous signs, well at least till I point out that from the age of 12 I regularily wore her clothes and got caught several times. They had forgotten the late night/early morning fire and brimstone talks they gave me.

When they eventually accepted they also looked back and realised the signs were always there. hehe I have a photo of me age around 9/10 standing on a beach with my dad wearing shorts and t-shirt and my appearance and posture scream girl, I'm amazed they never connected the dots.

Anyway good luck for your future now your out :)

Big hugs

Lizzie :)

Yule

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nothing like a woman

Around age of 12 I regularly wore her clothes, too but I never got caught, she has found where I kept them but I've never got caught wearing them. She says I've never shown any signs either, but I've been careful to watch the way I sit and things because she would always comment not to sit like that.

hugs :)
Michelle SidheElf Amaianna

Yeah parents can be quick to

Yeah parents can be quick to ignore the signs especially with things they don't want to believe or accept, they also try the "it's a phase" routine. My mom came out with that too, I said a phase is short period of time where you try different things then stop, I was mid 20's and asked how a phase can last over 10 years, she had no answer to that.

Yule

Bailey's Angel
The Godmother :p

A phase indeed! :-P

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Someone commented to my Dad that my having long hair was "just a phase". Twelve years later, I'm getting ready to move, and start living most-time (if not full-time) as Zoe in a few months :-P

Parents like to alter the facts to fit their views, rather than altering the views to fit the facts. Don't make the mistake I did Jaden, letting them convince you you're just confused.

I wasted ten years of my life listening to Mom's lectures about how I'm just confused because I didn't want to be transgendered. I didn't want to be "wrong" or "different". Of course now I know that there's nothing wrong with me :-) And psychiatry is finally catching up with that fact.

You are absolutely doing THE best thing by seeing a therapist at your age, and I'm glad your parents didn't freak out, either.

You go girl! :-) *hugs*

I'm glad it went so well.

That's really about one of the best outcomes most of us can expect.

My mom is the same way... My dad saw all the signs, some of the sibs did, but others still refuse to believe it.

Abigail Drew.

Good not to be rejected.

Not freaking out is better then freaking out. Not being physically harmed or thrown out of the house is even better. Now that they know the truth about you, you can take the steps to convince them and show them the truth. I am sure many of the folks here while happy for you are also jealous.

RAMI

RAMI

Congrats! That is a really

Congrats! That is a really huge step! Go you!

Your parents need to assimilate what you have said and see if you are actually serious about what you have said. If you are they will begin to process it and make sense out of it and then they will try to see you as you are as opposed to how they think you are. It takes a while. Remember a lot of parents have their hopes and dreams all wrapped up in their kids and it takes awhile to unwrap that and actually see the real kid under there. They did not immediately reject you, so that is a major win.

That is very awesome. Good luck at work and have fun with therapy. It always helped me make sense of all the stuff juggling around in my head as I went through that process. Enjoy the ride.

Heather

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