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I have had a few bad days, with some nastiness from colleagues based largely on being different. For the first time in years, I threw a 'sickie', calling in sick when I wasn't. I should add that my sick record is now three days off in seven years. Not bad, so I feel no guilt. The pressure that drove me was mainly having to deal with men who are Real Men, and want their way all of the time. Apparently, their penises are extremely large.

I sat down this evening, with a bottle of wine, and trawled through the internet for...oooh. Documentary on transitioning while married. Fits with current story.

http://www.itv.com/itvplayer/video/?Filter=308830

I know people in forn parts may have difficulties seeing this, but parts of it are wonderful. I have been through so much of what the two women experience, and there are lovely touches that shine throug some of the standard guff. The bit where the theatre nurse says "Welcome to your new fanny", or the wife says "The gender doesn't matter, this is still the person I fell in love with"

I don't know if it has been linked to here already, but I do not care.

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I didn't have any luck...

I got a message saying the video isn't available in my area. I guess those of us on the other side of the pond are going to have to wait until it's on one of those online documentary sites.

Livin' A Ragtime Life,

Rachel

Interesting ...

... or not, perhaps, but one of the women (Michelle) is from Worksop which is just a few miles up the road from Market Warsop (about 10 IIRC) which, as many of you know, is Maddy Bell's Gaby land. Yes, it's all a real place.

Steph, I'm surprised you're still getting hassle at work. I get the impression you've been Steph for some time and well past the time for colleagues to get used to the idea. Like you, I pulled very few 'sickies' in my working life but occasionally when things get too bad they're necessary and do you good. I hope yours has done the job for you.

Robi

Real Men

It is a machismo thing with the main person involved, and as I do not actually speak 'bloke' very well we have collided a few times. I think what infuriated him and his friend was my smile, maintained carefully as I simply said "No, you do it"

I will always have crap at work, and in life generally. It is, most unfortunately, the way of the world, but the alternative was a lot worse. Continuing to breathe allows more choices, and that is what I chose some years ago.We can't have all we want, so we take what we can.

Back at work Saturday morning. We shall see...

One thing to remember:

Almost everybody (men and women, trans or not) has a different idea of what a "real man" is.

Oh so true Steph, oh so true.

I'm so sad to learn of your problems at work and I sincerely hope you will at least circumvent them if you can't solve them. There will always be machismo 'blokes' and as you say, we will probably be forced to deal with them throughout our lives. I get around the issues by

1: Before retiring I avoided them as best I could and kept my work life very separate from my home life and pleasures.

2: Using those pleasures,(mainly cycling) to 'clear my head' and get away from confrontations; (though cycling is sadly
strewn with potential for confrontation from thoughtless or worse, dangerously stupid motorists,).

3: Seeking my friends amongst mine own, (LGBT communities)and helping them as best I could.

As you rightly say, we can't have all we want so we take what we can.

Apart from the cycling I also help mentor young TG people (even some older ones,) and it's very rewarding to see them take flight. For example, my best friend Mandy Mae, (She's on facebook and TV Chix,) started out as a very reserved and indeed timid cross-dresser. She now lives full time in female mode, still teaches at a college in South Wales full time as a girl, and still has the indescribable luxury of living with her wife and two teen-aged children.

All I did (She was 43 when I met her,) was take her to a few well organised TG dinner parties run by a good friend of mine, then accompany her on shopping trips as she gained more confidence.

When I have met young and often very distressed TG people in the gay clubs around South Wales (I AM NOT A PREDATOR!!) it has given me great satisfaction to sometimes offer them practical help in finding safe accomodation (Often in my own houses,) and then getting them out of danger in some of the less savoury gay clubs. It then gives me great fulfillment to watch them blossom and take their preferred route to a happier life-style.

You have my utmost sympathy concerning your issues at work but I think you are strong enough and resolute enough to withstand them. Yes, you're right, continuing to breath does allow more choices, I'll remember that gem if I find any more broken kids struggling to survive in the fall-out from the LGBT scene.

That fulfilment has also helped me to come to terms with my own life and the permanent issues I am burdened with.

Stay strong Steph and recharge those batteries.

Bev.

Watching British TV abroad

Or a broad. :)

Just do a search on my subject line above, there are at least a dozen sites that will let you watch British TV from outside the UK. Some of them are free.

Hugs,
Erin

= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.

Annette