Mom is Mommy again

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Ok, so I had a weird experience tonight. It started yesterday. I flew out to my parents place for Thanksgiving and got in yesterday afternoon. I made the final decision a couple of days ago that I was going to come out to my parents before the end of this vacation, even if had to hand my mom a letter before I boarded my flight home.

Last night I started the transgender discussion as we were all watching TV. I told them I was sorry I had to miss the Day of Remembrance events back home because of my flight. I told them I got involved with the community because I knew a few trans girls through some of the online writing communities I'm involved in. True. That is actually how I met people in the trans community before I knew completely who I was back in high school.

My parents are cool with alternative sexualities so I knew I wouldn't have any explosions on my hands or anything. They were a bit more ignorant about the issues then I thought they were, but I guess I should have expected that. It turned into a great little basic education conversation. I chickened out before I talked about myself though. I am planning to try to sit down and talk it out with my mom tomorrow, but I got a bit of a surprise tonight. I was saying goodnight to my dad before he and mom went up to bed and he said something that surprised me. He was asking me if I remembered how to turn off the entertainment center and all that jazz. Then he made the comment "The remote is by Mommy's chair".

Not "Mom's", but "Mommy's". It could have just been an honest mistake, but I've never known him to do something like that. Even my little sisters who are both in college now haven't called mom "Mommy" since the end of middle school, and I haven't for over 15 years at least. So either that was a weird mistake, or they're expecting me to bring something up...

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I wish you the best.

Perhaps your parents will be OK with it. I think I have seen very gradual improvement in the general population in terms of diversity. My family has not come round in 7 years and it may never happen.

Much peace

Gwendolyn

Mommy's Chair

That does sound strange. Unless the chair was referred to that way when you kids were younger, and he's just echoing that for nostalgia. Good luck, whether you tell them this visit or not. Let us know how it goes...

Lisa

Best of Luck!!!

I recall the Thanksgiving when I came out to my parents... I didn't get the opportunity you had to start things out, and ended up handing them a letter - and going outside to rake leaves. Wasn't long before I was called back in and they told me they still loved me...

Now, we'll see what they think - when we visit them at Christmas - when I tell them I'll be transitioning this year.

Best of luck/wishes to you. We never know how people will react to us.

Anne