So I just need to get this off my chest, because I absolutely loved her. My Aunt Sandi just passed about 5 minutes ago, unfortunately I wasn't able to say my goodbyes, but I am going up to Washington to attend the funeral this weekend. She has spent the past 20 some odd years battling cancer and tonight it finally won, when she was first diagnosed they gave her 6 months to live and she put up the fight of a lifetime, I am grateful I was able to spend time with such a wonderful woman. I don't believe in god, but she did and tonight for sure, I send up a prayer that she is in a better place and free of the intense pain that has been part of her last month on this earth.
For My Dearest Aunt Sandi,
~Val
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My Aunt Passed.
I grieve with you and believe that she is at peace.
May Your Light Forever Shine
May Your Light Forever Shine
I lost my aunt
a year ago this month, she lived with me for the last 23 years and we were very close.
I wish you well in your grief.
Angharad
Angharad
I just found out...
That apparently I was even off in my facts, she was given 3 months to live about 22 years ago, people are arguing about the exact lengths on facebook, it is like a competition to see who can say how great she was in the best way, and totally a testament to our family dynamics. Thank you for your condolences, she was just a great lady.
~Val
Sending Thoughts Your Way
My condolences
My condolences to you for the passing of your aunt. And it seems that your extended family is ready to celebrate her life, instead of mourning her death. That is not to say that mourning should not happen. Rather as part of your mourning and gaining closure on her passing, remember the good times you had together and the good fight she fought. And outliving a medical prognosis of 3-6 months by over 20 years is worthy of celebrating. So, go ahead and cry for your loss, but remember all the good and fun times you had with her!
From personal experience with the death of my baby daughter (14 years ago) and my grandma (8 years ago), I suggest that you try to spend some time alone beside her casket to say good-bye before the funeral service and at the cementery have some dirt/earth available to drop on the casket after it is lowered into the grave.
In our location the funeral guests help to close the grave, and many next of kin find the process of shoveling the dirt into the grave as very cathartic and helpfull in gaining closure in the mourning process for the beloved person. And I can attest to that from personal experience.