For those who don't know, I have two wonderful 10 year old girls. Yup, they're twins.
Anyway, the two of them went to a friends birthday party tonight and as 10 year olds do, they had a blast.
When I went to pick them up, everyone but my girls had already left. As usual they weren't ready, they and their friend and her brother were too wrapped up in playing. They were playing dress up. They all were dressed as their favorite Disney princess, even the brother. He was made up as Snow White. It was all very charming and I just couldn't help but smile.
When the mother came downstairs and noticed that I noticed how her son was dressed, you could see her start readying her defenses. I'm not sure but I suspect other parents had made comments about her son dressing as a princess.
I immediately praised all the kids on how well they looked and as my girls were getting changed, the mother mentioned how hard its been having a son that wants to dress in dresses and play princess. She mentioned that the difficulty wasn't her accepting her son wanting to do it, the difficulty was in trying to protect her son from being hurt.
We continued to talk and I gave her as much support as a could and assured her that I have no problems with my girls playing over at their house with ALL her children.
It turned out that some parents apparently had expressed their wish that he not be allowed to play that way with their children.
Soon we were in a deep discussion and from the way it went, I don't think she's been able to unload to anyone before. The short of it is we're now friends as well as our children and hopefully that will help make things a bit better for everyone.
I find it sad as always that there are those out there who condemn parents like her, children like her son and us. Well, one step at a time I guess.
Oh, she gave me a picture she took of all the princesses dressed up in their finery. I wish I could show it to you all, they really look great.
Peace and Love everyone,
Connie
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And each one, teach
And each one, teach one.
Well done honey.
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Wonderful!
It's great that you were able to give all this support to somebody who so badly needed it. That was a very thoughtful and caring thing to do. Kudos to you!
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Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until they speak.
I went outside once. The graphics weren' that great.
Yeah!
That should have been a shout. Good for you, for just being a caring, loving parent who understood another one.
Kids are kids. They do what what they like, and keeping them from doing that isn't a good thing.
I think you did good.
Maggie
good for you!
weather he is tg or not, you helped his mom cope, and that will help him, and so on, and so on.....
Dorothycolleen
Thank you
for being there for the mother and her 'extra' daughter.
It’s not given to anyone to have no regrets; only to decide, through the choices we make, which regrets we’ll have,
David Weber – In Fury Born
Holly
It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.
Holly
I love you!
That is SO great! How wonderful that she found someone who could understand and comfort her! I am very proud of you. I'm very glad you handled it as you did, not to pressure it in any way, but just to be accepting of both her son and the Mom, who seems to be doing her best. Hurrah for you!
Wren
Ignorance police
I don't know if I am a natural born evangelist or not, but some issues get me really impassioned. One of them is just plain ignorance in the face of being provided with the tools to cure that. I grapple with it constantly in dealing with people who know nothing about my faith. Then of course there are those who deal with people who are ignorant about global warming, recycling, nuclear power, homosexuality, smoking, and a whole array of things that we try to help with but the masses just seem willingly uneducated at times.
I am glad that you were able to comfort that mom a little and give her son a little chance to express himself. Who knows what is social situation is? Maybe he just does not make friends easily. Maybe your daughters reached out to him in a very special way, that he has never experienced before. Who knows, maybe he is full fledged TG or maybe when he hits puberty, everything will change for him.
So many of us who would like to dress up when we are young encounter such hostility and abuse that we never get to work it out.
You dun good Connie.
Khadijah
Thank you Connie,
ALISON
'I am so proud of you.You have shown us what we always knew,that you are a beautiful person.
ALISON
There's not much
I can add to the comments here save.
*Applauds*
Bailey Summers
Nice one,
Connie! =)
Thank you
For defending those of us who feel diffrent then what others expect of us. It was SO nice of you to be SO supportive of the mother of the boy. I'm glad she has you as a friend & that you are allowing your girls to playy with the other 3 GIRLS :). I don't consider him a boy I consider him part of the girls club :)
Love Samantha Renee Heart
Love Samantha Renee Heart