My Nanay aka mother-in-law suffered two ischemic strokes last Saturday. At first we thought Nanay may recover from them, but beginning Tuesday she started sliding badly. An MRI today showed Nanay's brain to have more damage than first diagnosed. Nanay is all but gone now.
My family has been spending much of the day at JFK. When a room is available, hopefully tonight, Nanay will be moved into the hospital's hospice unit. With my Nanay's other issues, pneumonia, cancer, and others, it's just a matter of time before she dies. Tomorrow is October 1, I pray to God that he takes her before the month is very old.
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I'm so sorry, Danielle
I hope, if she is still able that she communicates her wishes and love then passes swiftly and as painlessly as possible. I sincerley hope her fiances are all in order as probate can be a mess if there is not a clear and valid will or if the accounts are not titled right. Ideally all her bank accounts are joint accounts with right of survivorship or *or* accounts as our bank calls them. That way the survivor gets immediate ownership of the assents on death without death taxes or probate, at least in Wisconsin. My parents were careful to do this and it eased the burdens on my father greatly.
Watching a loved one die is never comfortable.
A recovery seems unlikely if they are moving her to hospice.
It took my mom nearly five moints to die after her terminal diagnosis, nearly all of the time in hospice at home. Fortunately she was fully lucid until near the end and then still herself that last few days just that thoughts came slower as she was so weak.
I hope your Nanay's end is kind to her and her family.
John in Wauwatosa
John in Wauwatosa
Thinking of you and your family.
I'm so very sorry for you and your family.
I hope and pray she will pass in peace, and that you and your family will also find peace.
The hospice folks are a breed apart. I have nothing but respect for them.
Nicole (a.k.a. Itinerant)
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Veni, Vidi, Velcro:
I came, I saw, I stuck around.
Nicole (a.k.a. Itinerant)
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Veni, Vidi, Velcro:
I came, I saw, I stuck around.
Been there
My mother died of a massive stroke too, slowly losing brain function in the icu.
I was with her probably for the last of her lucid time. She clearly understood what had happened to her. I hope her suffering is short. My mother had a DNR on file, so that was that, no hanging about on a machine.
*hugs*
Kim