My mother's loot

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Edeyn Okay, so... my mother's birthday is usually in the 2 to 3 weeks around Mothers' Day. This year, it was exactly 2 weeks before.

I love my mother, and though she's sometimes ashamed to admit to me being her child (let alone daughter instead of son), I know she loves me. I mean, there's a LOT of reasons to be ashamed to admit being related to me...
The transgender thing? No, she doesn't really let that bother her, anymore.

But my sister.

I think in the past few years, my mother has finally realized that I am the lesser evil of her daughters.

I know it's not about what you buy for each other on birthdays and holidays... but... it's a reflection.

My mother received:

    For her birthday:
    • From me:
        a bunch of flowers (daisies and tulips) and a gift certificate to her favourite restaurant large enough for herself and two friends
    • From my sister:
        A dinnertime phone call so she could talk to each of the three grandchildren (ages 7, 5, 2) for a few moments so their mother had time to get something made for dinner

    For Mothers' Day:

    • From me:
        a bunch of flowers (daisies) and a gift certificate to her favourite chinese place
    • From my sister:
        A text message during church that read (in entirety) "Happy mothers day" -- she couldn't even be bothered to figure out how to capitalize or even a smiley or exclamation point at the end

I ask you...

Am I wrong for being pissed off at my sister?

It's not even a "familiarity breeds contempt" thing... My mother is in SW Missouri, I'm in Hot Springs (Arkansas), and my sister is in Dodge City (Kansas). We're about the same distance from our mother.
Edeyn Hannah Blackeney
Wasn't it Jim Henson who said, "Without faith, I am nothing," after all? No, wait, that was God... Sorry, common mistake to make...
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Oh so getting it.

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I don't have any of the TG issues but I've got two older siblings who basically have no regard for our mother. My sister is on a near 20 year grudge for us being raised lower middle classed, My brother's a burnt out druggie. Neither even called her today.

Bailey Summers

You can choose your friends...

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...but not your family.

You may not like them much, but they are your family. No one is perfect - in their opinion, not even you.

Love them for what they are in spite of their faults, just as you wish them to love you, in spite of what they see as yours.

I could care less if my sister loves me

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Don't make an assumption about what I wish, please. My sister is a vile woman who left me to die in the Summer of 2006, lying in a pool of feces, vomit, and blood for over 9 hours when all I begged of her was to call an ambulance before she left. She left without calling -- and locked the door on her way out. If some friends of my mother's hadn't happened by and I hadn't heard them so I could scream for help (apparently, it was only loud enough to hear right at the door)... I'd have died. They broke in the door, called an ambulance, and the ER doc said I wasn't going to make it. I spent over a month just in intensive care.

So. No. I don't wish for her to love me. I wish for her to die in as painful a manner possible, with plenty of documentation for me to see it.

...

Which, I admit, is an uncharacteristically harsh reaction for me. But I spent nearly three months in the hospital, and the nurses say that during the first few weeks I pretty much did nothing but thrash in bed and moan for them to let me die.

Get over it

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If she did that to you, I really cannot understand why you're making a great issue of such a trivial question about what she gave your mother for her birthday. Presumably your mother knows what she did?

Put her out of your life rather than trying to compete with her.

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I'm not ashamed to admit we are family. I just started reading some of this. what happened that put you in the hospital for so long? and what have you been up to? r u on fB?

Kara

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