Depressed And Discouraged

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I am feeling depressed and discouraged over my employment situation(or lack thereof)I interviewed for a job and they asked me if I was available for two weeks training before they opened. I said yes and they led me to believe I would be getting a call. Apparently, they decided not to give me a chance. If there is one thing about being Trans that I do have a problem with, it is putting up with all the blatant job discrimination out there. I have applied for over 500 jobs in the last three years and I very rarely get an interview or even a chance to prove myself. I wish I could sue the Sh**t out of these companies for so much money that they would learn a serious lesson about discrimination. I am barely hanging on and I don't even have money for my meds or anything. I have had to go without for almost a month. The Medicaid program won't help because I'm not at least 59 or have dependent children. I just need to vent. I'm sorry I unloaded here, but I am just so frustrated and depressed, I needed to get it out some way.

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*hugs*

Zoe Taylor's picture

Jen, I am so sorry things are still not going well for you. I really hate how damned closed-minded the world can be toward people like us sometimes, and I truly hope things get better for you soon.

Don't worry at all about venting. God and Erin know I've spent many a night barking at the wind here. Just remember that you have friends like me here who do love and worry about you! You're in my thoughts often.

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I'm sorry that you hurt

Andrea Lena's picture

...rejection hurts so much more than most other pain because it goes to who we are rather than what we do or what we have done. My heart to yours, dear one.

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Love, Andrea Lena

Really???

Where do you live that has such an age discrimination on medical assistance? As far as I know, PA and NY don't have anything like that in the rules for getting Medicaid. Almost forty years ago, I was out of work and suffered a broken leg, PA medicaid stepped in and covered the bills. Sure, things change in that amount of time but it doesn't seem that it should be that such that a person can't get help.

The State Of Kentucky

jengrl's picture

I live in Kentucky. I went in to see if I qualified and that is what they told me.

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I wish I could make it better

Jen,

I wish there was something I could do to make it better. Really. You've been such a help with info for me this past week. I will keep you in prayer.

Blessings,
Beth

If it makes you feel any

If it makes you feel any better, you're not being discriminated against due to your TG status.

You're experiencing what I consider to be the most unethical bunch of bastards in the world. (No, not lawyers). Human Resources.

I can't count the number of times I sat in for interviews, got reviews, was told I'd get a call back within X number of days, and when I called in, was told they'd hired someone else - they just weren't going to call me. In fact, as near as I can tell, they generally move people around inside the company, and won't hire from outside for anything but entry level positions. They just have to interview in order to satisfy some sort of regulations.

I can count on my fingers with one hand tied behind my back, and without using my thumb, the number of honest HR people I've met - in 20 years of working in customer service and IT fields. That's part of the reason I ended up self-employed.

BW


I'll get a life when it's proven and substantiated to be better than what I'm currently experiencing.

Recession

As others have said, the discrimination may not be due to being TG. I haven't the foggiest idea how MedicAid works, but if its state funded, Kentucky's stringent qualification criteria suggests that there probably wouldn't be enough money to go around if the criteria were any looser (either lots of people are eligible, or they prefer to spend the money elsewhere if it's not ringfenced).

As for finding a job, welcome to the recession. There have been tales over here (UK) of graduates with 1st class honours degrees having to work for just above the minimum wage in burger chains because they've sent off over 500 applications and haven't had a single interview. Companies are very reluctant to hire, and when they do they'll preferentially appoint internally.

 


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platitudes as to why this is going on in your life right now. It just plain sucks. I'm really hoping things will turn around for you and you can get your life back on track.
*hugs*

Bailey Summers

It's an employer's market

Angharad's picture

thanks to the finacial meltdown last year, there are more applicants than jobs and I suspect most employers would rather hire someone without our little problem and so find reasons to pass us by.

Thankfully, I'm not needing to change my job, but I'm aware that if I was, I'd have to take my chances against youngsters who might be cheaper to employ. I didn't actually mention my change of status, although it was well known as I work in a relatively small profession and it got plenty of exposure in the tabloids years ago. Nobody has ever challenged me on it in any case.

I wish you well and hope something turns up soon. I find the whole US healthcare system a nightmare, thank goodness I live over here.

Angharad

Angharad

Can you please clarify

a bit as we do not know what your circumstances are, namely, are you obviously trans and they, being the baboons they are, immediately know that and gives you the push off?

Above all, never tell anybody you are trans if you don't have to. I made that mistake one time in telling a potential employer that I am trans because I knew I would have to get a secret clearance. Of course the BS security officer thought me being trans ( and I was post-op already! ) would probably be an issue in getting said clearance ( it isn't. ) And so I did not get considered for the job. The government security screeners ironically are more professional and have dealt with more of us and as long as it is not a great big secret on our part, is okay about it.

Hate to confirm that the less than enlightened attitudes still are alive and well in Dixie. crap.

Kim

They Find Out On The Background Check

jengrl's picture

They do a background check on you and find out whether you tell them or not. Since my State won't allow you to change the gender on your Driver's license until you are post-op, they find out that you were born physically male.

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