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I’ve been reading stories on this site and others for about three years now and finally decided to become a member. I’d love too even post my own stories if I thought they were good enough, or even finished for that matter. What took me so long to join, and even get the courage to write this is fear. Which is probably silly really. I cross dress at home. And I’m extremely lucky that my wife accepts it so well. She even buys clothes for me when she’s out shopping for herself. But sometime I feel I don’t have the right to consider myself transgender because I don’t for see myself ever transitioning. I want to but I don’t want to put my wife and kids through it. That and I hate the fact that I feel like a linebacker in a dress. I’m no where near that size, and it really shouldn’t matter if I want it bad enough. I admire those who probably feel the same and still have the courage to go for it. If I could I’d give each one a hug. Anyway, enough of my rambling and self pity. I really just wanted to say hi.
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Welcome
... and join the crowd.
Transition should always be one of last resort, so don't be sad or feel you don't belong to the T-community. For full disclosure, I am fully transitioned myself but it is never an easy thing. Yes, if you can live without it without causing yourself irreparable emotional harm, then don't do it.
My choice was made easier by deliberately not getting into a relationship but you are traveling a well-worn path by many of the folks here.
Oh BTW, you are aware a number of the folks here are NOT trans? So who cares.
Also, being bigger does not necessarily mean not being able to transition but you know best.
Kim
There aren't any rules about who belongs to what label
Welcome!
Transgender covers everything from cross-dressing to full transition and surgery. Hopefully no one here is hung up on labels anyways. I cross-dressed in my teens, but gave it up as I got bigger. I've never lost interest in the subject and stories and still have feminine fantasies. I've always felt welcome here, and everyone should as long as they are respectful of others.
Again welcome {{{Hugs}}}
Frank
Welcome Anya,
to the BCTS home for the incurably insane - it might look like a cat's home, but don't worry they're all barking (mad), except me of course.
I think the site requirements are for the sharing and enjoyment of transgender fiction in a friendly environment - so as long as you enjoy and share our cornucopia (I knew I'd get to use that word sometime)in a friendly manner, you qualify. Nothing to fear - except the wardresses - hush, they'll hear us...
Angharad
(They're all mad but me.)
Angharad
Thank you
Thanks for the kinds word and encouragement. I know it's silly to feal that way but I can't help it, probably stems from other issues. I tried once to find a group to join just to have someone to talk to who is going through the same things. But the closest to me were either Charlotte or Atlanta. To far. This site and the stories help me feal 'less alone' you could say. That and the podcast Transponder on itunes. If you haven't heard it yet I deffinetly recomend it. By the way Angharad I loved your bike series but I lost internet service for about 9 months and have yet to start catching up.
Anya
Welcome to the Big Closet Family
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I just want to say that I am
I just want to say that I am glad you have this site to relate to when you can't talk to me. I am always willing and open to talk with you about anything and not judge. I love you very much and I am glad you have trusted in me so much. You don't look like a line backer in a dress. I think you look beautiful and I know that all women feel not confindent with themselves at some point or another. It just means your part of the club. I am glad that you confided in me so that we could go through this together. I only wish you would of sooner. I know it was only bc of fear of rejection like you had from others that you did not. I will always try to have and open mind and will always have an open heart to love and open ears to hear. You are a wonderful person no matter what. I just wanted to say this to you. You are my heart and always will be.
The Term "Transgender"
Is just a giant umbrella term for everything that can be classified under Gender Identity Disorder, which is just a psychiatric classification and describes the attributes related to transsexuality, transgender identity, and transvestism.
So basically I am saying that even if you don't feel you have the right to call yourself Transgendered. You do and you can. These days Transgender is a category that refers to an all inclusive Umbrella term that includes Transvestites, Crossdressers, Androgyne's, Gender Benders, Transgenderists and Transsexual. Intersex people are sometimes included as well depending on who you talk to.
Yes there are some interesting things said here and they are all true
So Welcome to BigCloset and Have fun while you are here
The answers to all of life's questions can be found in the face of a true friend
The answers to all of life's questions can be found in the face of a true friend