As I was at my counselor I did recieve several nice compliments from him. I think they are important, because they solidify what I already know about myself.
The first was when I said I wouldn't get any facial reconstructive surgery. He said he didn't see the need. I've been blessed with high cheek bones and I think my face has always had feminine qualities to it, now if I would add to that some make-up (which I don't wear as of yet) think how far I should come. The thing about make-up, is 1) I break out easy and 2) I never learned and don't want to look like a harlot.
The second compliment was about my mannerisms. Growing up, I had a lot of my natural, feminine mannerisms drilled out of me. Don't stand like that, don't walk like that, don't hold your hands that way, I'm sure lots of people know the drill. But the counselor said I still do many feminine poses naturally. I still would like to regain what I lost though. Interesting note, a few weeks ago a co-worker started calling me Mrs. America... I asked why and she said it was how I walked, so maybe I'm not that far off.
Here is to being more comfortable with being me. I think my real goal is to be more social in general. Maybe a few more trips to the mall. Anyone in tampa want to hang?
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Lessons
I am sure that in a big city like Tampa, you can find someone to give you make-up lessons. Even if you only wear it in the privacy of your home. When you look in the mirror, you'd feel good about yourself.
Rami
RAMI
On make up
Dear Katie,
You say you use little make-up and I can understand that looking at their price: I would however advice you to get out and buy some make up of lower price. Then get, or at least borrow, some litteraturer for teens about using make up. There are at least two reasons for this:
a) You will add to your skills and will be able to talk about it with other women
b) It is fun to see what small changes can do to how your appearance
I got me a foundation that was a little darker than my natural tone and one other a little lighter. A Rouge that is not too sharp, it should just make you look as if you had been out in a little chillly weather. One moisturing creme and a lipstick that is close to your normal lip-color.
Use them and remember that lighter parts emphesaize parts of your face and darker make them be less visible.
When I started it took me perhaps 40 minutes, but with some training I was down to 20 minutes. And I had confirmed to myself that I could do it if needed. Today some nine years later I seldom use it.
Good luck in the experimenting
Ginnie
GinnieG
Makeup tips
When it comes to makeup the three important things are: Technique, which as Rami said, you can find lassons on and there are some good books and even youtube videos on the subject.
Experience, which will come naturally over time. and approach, which is often neglected. The problem tends to come about at this stage, people wear makeup either just to wear makeup or to hide an/or conceal things about themselves.
That right there nearly always leads to accidental harlot syndrome. For beginners the best thing is to think in terms of enhancement and highlighting.
How can I make my lips look better to me, how can I make my eyes look bigger/more colourful/less red? How can I make my nose seem less prominent, make my chin seem more in tune with the rest of my face?
This is also where research comes in, look up what the different cosmetics are for. Learn the difference and pros/cons of lipstick, lipstain, lip gloss... and so on and so forth.
As for breaking out, well watch out for oil based makeup. Try finding foundation that's gentle on the skin, amazon.com is good for this because they have a large selection and an easly accessable review system. Or just not using foundation at all. A touch of concealer here and there is infinitely better in my opinion.
Most importantly though, is to do what feels right and fun for you.
congrats on the progress hon
getting compliments like that really help your confidence. You go, girl!