i thought this was an uncommonly well-written piece about being t*, and having a partner who doesn't deal with it any better than most. there are a few places where it's over-written ("amsonia-blue") but it's definitely worth checking out. it's quite odd, which is, i guess, the reason i enjoyed it.

http://msupress.msu.edu/journals/fg/pdf/09_11.2Peters.pdf