Hello all:
I have been struggling with my name for quite some time. On Tuesday my Counselor and I were talking and she said that perhaps since I was born as Gwinn, then perhaps Gwen just is not a clean break from my past. We had talked about my using Khadija before but I never made a decision; it being easier to vacilate. She suggested that perhaps I should just get on with it and use Khadija as my name from here on out.
For me, Khadija has really very little to do with Islam, since they and I are not on the best of terms. It is the usual crap that T folk go through with almost any religion. And, please don't ask me why I am religious at all, because quite simply, I wonder myself. I still need to work that out, but I am doing all that in a very contemplative manner.
So, to make it official, from here on out my name is Khadija. I'll not ask Erin to change my accounts; that being too much bother.
Thank you all.
Khadija Brown
Comments
Account name
You can change that yourself, actually. I would have to change your Author Name in the Author Category List but that is trivial. Tell me when and if. :)
Hugs,
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
Thank you
Thank you Erin for your quick attention to detail. I am going about the second level name change in a very deliberate manner since the next step after this would be the Driver's License, Social Security, the VA, the Pass Port, ad nauseum. I have been accused of being impulsive, so I want to go about this with all due caution so I don't have things to regret later.
M'salama
Khadija
Ho I chose my name
When I was 12 my dad passed away. Being raised Catholic I believed my dad was in heaven.
So as I grew up I talked with him for important decisions. My mother later gave me his high school class ring. Inscribed inside were his initials PAR. So when I was thinking about my new name I talked with him. Then I thought about his initials. So I chose Pamela Ann Reed (PAR). That was 11 years ago and my life is very full now and every thing is Pamela Ann Reed except my birth certificut. I was born in Ohio which will not amend your bith cert. But I have my drivers licence, passport so do not need that. By the way Khadija I think your name is lovely!! Conrgatulations on your choice!!
Hugs,
Pamela
Pronunciation?
Would you mind awfully giving a phonetic pronunciation of your new name? I hate screwing up people's name. And congratulations!
A new name is a very special thing, especially in our community. It can tell us a lot about how you see yourself. Was there a particular reason you chose this name? Someone you admire? Family name? Cute sounding? Whatever?
Lili
http://lilithlangtree.tglibrary.com/
~Lili
Write the story that you most desperately want to read.
Khadija
The girl's name Khadija \k-hadija, kha-di-ja\ is pronounced kah-DEE-jah. It is of Arabic origin, and its meaning is "early baby". Muhammad's first wife, named in the Koran as one of the four perfect women. (The others were Fatima, Mary, and Aisha.) Familiar in modern times due to the character Khadijah on the TV show "Living Single".
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Khadijah_bint_Khuwaylid
Cheers,
Puddin'
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Cheers,
Puddin'
A tender heart is an asset to an editor: it helps us be ruthless in a tactful way.
--- The Chicago Manual of Style
When I changed my name
it had to be a name that meant something. Something either from my good past, the present, or what I was going through. I chose Barbara because it is from the word barbarian meaning stranger, or foreigner and that is what I was; a stranger traveling in a foreign physical land. Even though being female in my soul since I can remember, and that was only the emotional part. The physical part is where the difference comes in. So I picked Barbara over what my friends used to call me when I was younger.
I think Khadija is a wonderful name.
"With confidence and forbearance, we will have the strength to move forward."
Love & hugs,
Barbara
"If I have to be this girl in me, Then I have the right to be."
"With confidence and forbearance, we will have the strength to move forward."
Love & hugs,
Barbara
"If I have to be this girl in me, Then I have the right to be."
St. Barbara the beautiful
I am not at all sure if it is a good idea to comment on names as it can only inflate the ego of any bearing the same. However as someone who briefly defended Western Civilisation, not to mention Queen and Country, whilst serving in the Royal Artillery I have a soft spot for Barbara. The saint of that name being the patron saint of gunners and those in danger of sudden death, especially when caused by explosions etc. (So presumably the people whom we are firing at also fall under her protection. How she manages to reconcile these two somewhat conflicting duties has always remained something of a mystery to me.)
But what really makes her so attractive in the memory is G. K. Chesterton's poem 'Ballad of St. Barbara.' which I first read when young and impressionable. A very long time ago. It contains the lines, lovely to my mind -
Barbara the beautiful
Had praise of tongue and pen:
Her hair was like a summer night
Dark and desired of men.
Her feet like birds from far away
That linger and light in doubt;
And her face was like a window
Where a man's first love looked out.
It probably isn't the greatest poetry, but I find it achingly memorable, particularly the last two lines. I don't know why. Call me an old softie.
So B... Lynn Terry, I do so approve of your choice.
Hugs,
Fleurie
Khadija pronunc.
Thank you awfully much for your desire to do it right. In actuality, the Arabs pronounce Kh as sort of clearing your throat while doing a ha. It is a funny thing that even the ones from Sauudia often simply pronounce it as Ka.
I was at first extremely devout as a Muslimah, but with the usual treatment that T folk recieve, my views have moderated a great deal. In fact some of my friends suggest that my wearing of Muslim garb simply draws attention away from the fact that I am T; causing them to focus on the beautifully hidden and exotic woman. And, in fact that I am often told that I am pretty or beautiful when properly dressed. I do not intend to give up that advantage lightly.
And when you just take a casual look at my writing, my true nature is revealed quite handily.
As far as learning to operate an AK, or make a cell phone bomb, hardly.
M'salama
Khadija
I've always thought that the American Indian....
...tribes had the best attitude. They gave a new baby only their baby name, which the adult was expected to change to capture some important aspect of their adult life, and might change again if their circumstances or outlook changed.
Khadija seems like an auspicious name, because it has an honoured history, and because it seems somehow appropriate for one who was "reborn" in the course of their life's journey.
Bright blessings,
Puddin'
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Cheers,
Puddin'
A tender heart is an asset to an editor: it helps us be ruthless in a tactful way.
--- The Chicago Manual of Style
My own name
I was born "Christian", but I changed it to Christelle. I really hate hearing people talk about me with male pronouns, or use my old name, even in chat, or when reminiscing old stories.
So why not have picked a better name? Well, simply put, I didn't feel like a totally different person. I didn't want to have to re-learn my own signature, and I didn't want to throw away my (conveniently enough) androgynous nickname of "Cri", still much in use today. I just took my old name and put a feminine ring to it that I really like.
Now my name produces some bipolar effects lol! "Christian" will get me raging inside, while "Christelle" feels warm and loving and feminine and...you get the point ~_^
However you do it, it's important that your own name makes you happy, no matter what. You don't have to have a clean break, just do what feels/sounds right. Although a clean break might help people adapt more easily, and thus the occasional slip-up will be avoided more often.
-Christelle
"Fun-loving geek-chick looking for someone who doesn't give a damn about her past"
-Christelle
"Fun-loving geek-chick who's addicted to sunlight!"
Nice to meet you Khadija
Nice to meet you Khadija hope your new life is awesome!
>>>>>I'm a new soul.I came to this strange world.Hoping I could learn a bit bout how to give and take.<<<<<
>>>>>I'm a new soul.I came to this strange world.Hoping I could learn a bit bout how to give and take.<<<<<
Mine was easy!
When I decided to legally change my name to Marlene, it was awfully simple. I think I spent more time waiting for copies of the decree then when I was in front of the judge.
Since the library was within walking distance, I went there first to get my info changed, then to Social Security, DMV, and my mental health agency.
I do guest lectures, and I say it was the best $120 I ever spent.
I took Marlene to both reflect my German heritage (Marlene Dietrich the singer/actress), and my middle name Andrea (aan-DRAY-a) because it sounded nice. It wasn't until later did I chuckle because I happen to be a Trekker, and I remembered the episode What Are Little Girls Made Of? where Kirk and crew encounter an underground society consisting of a handful of androids, one of whom was named Andrea. Because some consider us "artificial" woman, the irony was obvious!
And I totally agree Khadija... your name is lovely!
Congratulations...
...and hugs, Khadija! ^___^ As for the religious aspect, I can only admire your convictions, and hope for the best for you. True Islam is not, even from the little I know, an easy path >without< dealing with the extra issues of trans-gender. I am glad that you are putting thought into it, rather than letting hurt feelings make a final snap judgment for you. Whatever your eventual choice, the deliberation taken to make it is not wasted effort, just preparation for the aftereffects. You have my (admittedly flaky and distant >.< ) support!
And once again, congratulations on your decision re your name! It is a very beautiful one, and the associations are not bad at all, I think.
-Liz
-Liz
Successor to the LToC
Formerly known as "momonoimoto"