I'm getting divorced from my wife, after she hit me in front of our four year old daughter. So I've got our daughter and she and her mother haven't personally met since May, but talk on Skype regularly.
Quite often my wife will ask if she misses her, and my daughter if she answers will quietly say no, giving my wife the chance to say she misheard or come up with some excuse.
They were talking tonight on the phone, and my wife asked "Do you miss me?"
My daughter said "No I don't miss you." very clearly and distinctly, having gotten fed up with the question.
For five minutes my wife tried to get her to say that she missed her, or her maternal grandparents, up to the point of threatening to not send anymore parcels.
For five minutes my daughter said, "I don't miss anyone! But I would like the parcel."
I'm very surprised my wife didn't freak out, but she was accusing our daughter of being misled, and being told not to miss her. Totally false, but amusing to me since I've been treating the subject with kids gloves so no lawyers can say I'm destroying the relationship.
Anyways, yeah, I just wanted to get that out, because after the way she ignored her daughter for 3 years, her getting upset now that her daughter is returning the favour, I'm finding the poetic justice hilarious.
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Those who want ‘to be loved’…
… are often those unable to love others. Please take pleasure in your daughter’s moments of joy and share your joy with her. I wish you and your daughter many years of happiness together
Rhona McCloud
Everyday she's a blessing
If it wasn't for my daughter I'd have been free of the woman five years ago, after only a year and some months of nastiness mixed with good times. Believe me when I say I live for every smile that little girl sends my way.
Thank you very much.
It's still sad
It may be poetic justice, but it's still sad.
My ex is, let's say, a difficult person. Among other things, she pretty much can't look beyond her own needs and point of view or to consider how she comes across to other people. She's managed to alienate a lot of people, including both of our kids, to the point that they spend most of their time with me. (They're over 18, so they can choose.) She's always complaining about how they don't come by and help around the house (she kept the house, I moved into an apartment 1/2 mile away.) I feel sorry for her, especially when she was dealing with cancer, but I've learned that it just doesn't work for me to allow myself to have any emotional connection with her. I used to love her, but eventually realized that it was killing me and had to emotionally chew my leg off, like an animal caught in a leg-hold trap, to save my life. I'm afraid my kids will come to the same conclusion.
True
But I'm not shedding many tears. Since my wifes nickname for our daughter was "the burden" and she called spending any time with her as babysitting while our daughter listened, she lost any sympathy from me. She was just lucky we were in China for most of our marriage, instead of Canada or I'd have divorced her and taken our daughter years ago.
If you've heard of China's little emperor problem, my wife is the poster child of that.