https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDpvwxLpfHQ
Pastor dies by suicide after being outed for cross dressing.

I've said it many times and if you don't understand by now, you never will. If you aren't emotionally secure, strong enough to withstand the storm, don't expose one's self to public opinion. There are those whose whole life and attitude is judging and destroying others for any reason.

Working with a Health Provider, she has seen all my IDs, court papers, government records. I have no ghosts in my past. In order to help others I'm very open about my life. Monday she paid me an exceptional compliment. "You are amazing. You look better than any woman I can name at this time."

I confess, I learned from my wife, who was an exceptionally beautiful, intelligent, woman. I learned from the beautiful women I conversed with around the world. There are thousands of degrees of MtF transgender. What is left of this life is to give support and advice to those who had no doubt from the beginning they were female. Those who live in nations and states where they aren't allowed to carry personal protection, I want them to always be aware and double up with a girlfriend. Don't out one's self if not prepared for the exposure and hate. It will come no matter how beautiful you are.

Most of all I wish each and everyone no matter T or not, a life worth living. It's your life, don't let others tell you how to live it.
Hugs People
Barbie Jean
Life is a gift, don't waste it. There are no 'do overs' for this one. Stay safe.

I shudder to rhink about how many folks who frequent this site have ever considered suicide. I won't ask.

Growing up straight through to the last few years, I have considered it WITHOUT a plan, thank you. My own childhood is well-documented here. Suffice to say that SA as a kid wss almost surpassed by painful events that drove me into the closet for decades. My late sister was hospitalized twice as a teen for her own trauma as a SA victimization as a kid. Ironically at the same mental Hospital where MrsD worked as a supervising nurse. It's all too real to me.

I have known three folks who succeeded in ending their own lives. All three were in stealth but were STILL outed. I had a friend in my church in the 80's who couldnot bear the guilt and the unmerited chame over having an abortion; with all of the criticism directed at her by church members.

I have known four persons who were murdered; two of who succumbed to doemstic violence whilr the other two were killed for memrely bing thgemselves. One because of race and the other becsuse she was trans.

We have an astonishingly tragic amount of teens in the trsns community who have been ostracized by their families. Many of those kids have tried to take their own lives; all too many have succeeded. The past administrstion specificall targetted transwomen seeking shelter. One tactic deliberately issued guidelines to help shelters IDENTIFY trans persons. Even now states are still petitioning the courts to allow 'conversion therapy.' Worse yet that some states are not only prohibiting affirming care for trabns kids,but some are forcing kids and their parents to 'walk back' and destransition.

The two primary reasons for suicide, much of which is based on self reporting of suicide survivors and by contrmporaneous repoirts by friends and families: Helpless and hopeless. When the pain of existence is too hard to bear and no other remedy can be seen. Mental health issues are stigmatized even now, and seeking help is also thwarted by the unavailabiity of care and/or the lack of resources.

We are only weeks away from Transgender Day of Rememberance. How painfully ironic to have someone in this at large community to have been so closeted that her wrirting under her nom de plume was known only to a precious few until after her demise.

I am saddened beyond what words i have written here. Even now, I can reluctantly imagine that I DO have company here in my own grief as many of us DO know someone who has tried, with a tragic few knowing someone succeeded. And sadder still that some of us have thought about it.

It's been said ad infinitum, 'Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.' The solution isn't a solution,of course. But neither is the problem temporary. Lifelong strugles for many. How utterly frustratin to have painful realities reduced to a pithy saying.

Love y'all!