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When I got new glasses last month, I decided to do something I've wanted to for years. I got myself a pair of girly glasses. (Pictured above.) When I go out as me, which I do often, it helps people recognize that I'm feminine.
I've been wearing them around the house so much my wife has gotten completely used to seeing them on me. So much so, when I left for church this morning I was wearing them and she didn't even notice. Fortunately, my cataract surgery left me with good enough reading vision that I don't really need glasses unless the light isn't good or the print is really small, so I've been doing without. Before she noticed, I took them off while still in the car.
I'm going to have to watch that. While the pastoral staff is mostly aware of my gender variance, the vast majority of the congregation is not. I doubt that pastor would appreciate me showing up with "in your face" women's glasses on. Though for me, it'd be a hoot. ;o)
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Borrowing glasses
If your wife wears glasses, could you occasionally ask to 'borrow her spare pair' as you left yours in the car?
Sweet cat eyes
Hi Patricia
I like your glasses they look very similar to the new pair I got last month. Mine aren't pink, but are more gray/purple, and like you, after many years I decided to go more feminine. I had intended to wear them only on those special days but I have been wearing them everyday for a month and nobody as said anything to me, not my wife, nor daughter, not friends or even strangers on the street. Unlike you I need glasses to be able to do anything that requires me to see, like anything.
Sweet cat eyes!
Jeri Elaine
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Wearing them to church
With all due respect, if the church members have a problem over so minor of a thing, such as glasses, I think you are going to the wrong church.
I disagree
The church I attend is my church. Mine more so than the Pastor's. I've been attending for over 30 years. The current pastor has only been pastor for 15. I've assisted in remodeling three different sanctuarys. My daughter and her family attend there as well. It's a matter of me respecting the other members of the congregation enough not to be "in your face" gender variant and make them uncomfortable. So along with respecting the other members, I also need to keep in mind the feelings of my family about just how feminine I present myself.
I already push the envelope by wearing slacks that have no fly or hip pockets and are pull up, shirts with the buttons on the distaff side and jet black knee-highs instead of dress socks. Not to mention my shoes, penny loafers, women's size 12 and occasionally another pair of flats that resemble loafers, but are decidedly feminine. Oh, and let's not for get that I wear a bra with 'C' cup breast forms.
The glasses would have been overtly noticed, since I've been going without since January.
After all, it's not all about me.
Hugs
Patricia
Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
Semper in femineo gerunt
Ich bin ein femininer Mann