According to my sister, who called me at 11:55PM. She assured me that Mom was at peace and in no pain, with her family around her. While I feel very sad right now, I also feel relieved that I didn't try to force my 'new self' on my family members while a tragic event was unfolding.
Conflict and dissension were the last things needed at Mom's death bed. She needed peace, and love, and the assurances that us kids would be okay, and that, she got. She knew it was okay for her to go.
I cannot possibly express my appreciation to all of you for allowing me to pour out my heart's pain here. From you I have received love, respect, condolences, and hope, but Thank you, from my heart, and on behalf of my whole family.
Now, things begin anew, with me living my life as I should always have done. Knowing Mom knew and was okay with it, and her love and respect for my decision, are the things I will carry in my memory. Her loving, caring attitudes and toughness are the things by which I will try to live the rest of my life.
Arline Michel-Burnett was 81 years young, with a heart as big as all outdoors, and a spirit that kept her with us long after most would have given up. She was loved by her children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and her friends. She was my Mom, and I will miss her all the rest of my days.
Save me a place beside you, Mom. Hopefully we will see one another again. I love you.
Your loving daughter,
Catherine Linda Michel
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*hugs*
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I second that emotion
I'm glad it's over for you - well, that part anyway and I'm also glad that everything was peaceful.
Big hugs to help you on your way.
Lady E
Never Easy
To deal with a death in the family, but, for what it's worth, it seemed to go as easily as it could have. You did what you had to and what you could for your Mom and that was all you could do and you didn't cause any family waves doing it,
Love and Best Wishes,
Joanne
May you be blessed ...
... with as loving a life, as you've described your mom having. I'm sure her memories will always be with you. May these memories help you through this loss.
Annette
I am sorry for your pain
I hope that it begins to ease for you in the days to come.
It is never easy
Catherine
It is never easy to lose someone close to you. They make up a
fabric that we take for granted till one day we find a hole where
a friend used to be. When that person is close, like a parent,
it seems like the whole thing is coming unraveled.
It's good to know that all your friends and acquaintances share your
pain, but the truth is that this really does too little to balance
out the pain of a loss so overwhelming. It is a painful reality,
but a reality never-the-less.
It is with a sense of regret then, as well as sympathy, that I
tell you how sorry I am for your Mom. It's not enough, but I
will be thinking of you, with sympathy and with love. I will also
be hoping that out of this loss, you might find something that
you can hold on to tightly. Perhaps even a recognition in your
family’s eyes, that none of us are here forever. We have a finite
time in which to find ways to be good to one another. Just maybe
they will take that opportunity to be good to you, just as I know
you will help them in return. Sometimes, loss brings families
closer.
You have my deep sympathies for your loss, Catherine. Please,
remember to take care of yourself as you get through these next
days. I have no doubt you will get through.
Sarah
Condolences
Deeply sorry for your loss.
Hugs!
Hugs Cathy
More hugs
grover and Paula
*HUGS*
Hang in there Cathy. Let the grief try to come out. I am there with you. Let the tears flow knowing that she loved you. As the seasons change, the wind blows, the clouds drift lazily overhead, the sun shining down upon you, with the ever distant chirp of birds feed your being and let the essence of living flow from within.
You are part of our family. And we take care of our own.
Love you Cathy. You will find the peace you need and the strength to carry on.
I will be here for you. Just call
BigCloset TopShelf
hugs
passing on a huge squidgy hug and a light in the window your memories will always keep her alive
to hug is to be and to be is to be hugged
view the world through the eyes of a child and relearn the wonder and love
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to hug is to be and to be is to be hugged
view the world through the eyes of a child and relearn the wonder and love
Allie elle loved and cared for and resident of the kids camp full time
What Mommas Do
Every time I've opened this blog lately, I start crying. All I can say is what I said at my own mother's funeral in January. You have my permission to use this poem if you wish.
Hugs,
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
Hugs
Wish I could be there to give you a hug in person. I know it is rough. I lost my mother just before Christmas in 1999 and daddy a few years before, so I can understand your feelings.
I still cry for my mother sometimes at night and I am 67 years old.
Love,
Billie Sue
Billie Sue
A few words
My condolecnes and prayers.
Danielle
"God couldn't be everywhere. That is why he created mothers."
Daniel, author of maid, whore, bimbo, and sissy free TG fiction since 2000
What the world needs is more geniuses with humility; there are so few of us left.- Oscar Levant
So sorry
At 81 she could have been a classmate of my late Mom or of my Dad, still with us and driving to Yellowstone Nat Park from Wisconsin.
Danielle, you may have it wrong. With all that Mom did for us, I'd say maybe it should read ...
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"Mom's couldn't be everywhere. That is why they created God."
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When your a baby or a toddler Mom's are omnipotent. As you get older you may think they have lost a step, they are only human or that you know more than they but then the surprise you in some wonderful way.
Rest in peace, dear Mom, gone three years this June.
John in Wauwatosa
John in Wauwatosa
I'm sorry to hear your news
but pleased to learn that your mother understood and supported your need to change your life. Reward that belief in you by succeeding in your new life.
God bless,
Angharad
Angharad
I'm really sorry
Glad she was able to peacefully...
HUGGLES
Hugs
My heart goes out to you. I know how hard it is to lose someone who has always been there for you. It must be even harder knowing that others who should be there with you are too shallow to let you be yourself.
Your mom has fought the good fight, and is now at peace. It's time for you to pick up the baton and carry on. I'm sure you'll make her proud.