Ok, I was reading something about how you have to humor small children with their various play activities. One of the comments was:
it’s very important to a child’s development to not be shut down by parents and other caregivers
To which someone else replied:
It probably says something about my family that I read that last comment as “not to be shut down by their parents and captors,” doesn’t it?
Now as some of my comments and posts have implied, I didn't have the greatest family life either.
So my *immediate* response to the "captor" bit was this:
Q: Why do children love their parents?
A: Stockholm Syndrome
Yup, sometimes black humor is all you have...
Comments
isn't that similar
isn't that similar to:
do you miss your parents?
yes, but my aim is improving.
Stupidity is a capital offense. A summary not indictable.
I hadn't heard that one with
I hadn't heard that one with "parents" before. Usually it's "wife" or (rarely) "husband".
Even so, still better than the "mommy, mommy" jokes...
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Girls will be boys, and boys will be girls
It's a mixed up, muddled up, shook up world
"Lola", the Kinks
You mean like .. ?
"Mommy mommy, why are all my friends running away?"
"Shut up and reload."
- Leona
Or:
Or:
"Mommy, mommy, why am I running around in circles?"
"shut up or I'll nail your other foot to the floor too."
Oh lord, there's a *list*...
http://www.angelfire.com/ca/dkelley/mommy.html
Brooke brooke at shadowgard dot com
http://brooke.shadowgard.com/
Girls will be boys, and boys will be girls
It's a mixed up, muddled up, shook up world
"Lola", the Kinks
I know
I changed it to parents just to fit your post. :)
Stupidity is a capital offense. A summary not indictable.
Yeah, you cynical!
Not that there isn't some truth to the Stockholm Syndrome issue. But depends on the family at hand.
-- Daphne Xu (a page of contents)
cynical? Maybe.
maybe you are cynical; maybe you're not. at least you aren't jaded.
quidquid sum ego, et omnia mea semper; Ego me.
alecia Snowfall
Cynical
HELL YES --- Middle child syndrome
Re: Cynical
I have to agree. The only "family" I had at any time, I was the middle child AND adopted PLUS gender dysphoric.
So I had to put up with the usual crap being the middle kid, plus being treated very differently than their four biological children.
And that was on top of the fact they KNEW that I was gender dysphoric, old Doctor Daddy flat out told the folks at the Catholic Children's Aid office who had told them about my gender issues that "he would make me into a man, even if it killed him".
His making me into a man involved beating me with a half inch thick, two inch wide leather belt, sometimes two or three times a day.
Well, after about seven years of that, I told the bastard that if he ever touched me again, I would kill HIM. He believed me and it ended.
That led to my being completely segregated from the rest of the family, until the adoption ended about thirteen months later. I wasn't allowed to leave my room during that whole time period unless I was using the bathroom, having a shower/bath or I was going to school.
So I know quite well about middle child syndrome, I lived it every day for eight years. Being treated differently because I wasn't their biological child only made the situation worse. I also know all too well about being a prisoner in what was supposed to be my home.
I can't say for sure either way if I ever actually experienced Stockholm syndrome while there, but I admit that it may have been possible.
I apologize for the rant, just remembering what I went through back then causes me to become rather angry very quickly. Think of it as you lighting a match, it's only a small flame, but when you use the lit match to light a bonfire, it can quickly become a very large flame/fire.
All in all, I am quite cynical about "loving families", far too many hide the reality from everyone else until someone discovers it. That is not to say that such families can't exist, I admit they can, I just find it hard to believe in them due to my own experiences, I suppose.
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- Leona
All I can say
All I can say is I kind of let my kids do what ever they wanted as long as it made them good adults, but I also told them " I'm your parent not your friend."
Too many parents these days are their children's friend and not parents, go to any coffee shop and watch the out of control brats, which will become real problems when they hit puberty. I'm very proud of my kids, with the exception of one, and she was able to do what ever she wanted, good or bad with the blessing of her mother, wife number 2. My wife now and I have been married thirty three years and I feel blessed to have found her and no, she is no push over, just ask me and our children. All my kids are adults and have jobs, some not so good, but that is their choice, they are young, 26 being the youngest and he wants to become a Michelin chef, so he doesn't make a lot of money, but he loves what he does so we help him occasionally, as we do with the next older son, the entertainment field is a bitch. I don't know where I was going with this, I think it was to be a parent not a friend, they will love you more if you do, Arecee