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My best friend died last night.

Helen and I had known each other 45 years and been married 38 of them. She died at home in our bed, peacefully in my arms with our son beside us holding her hands.

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There are no words,

that could possibly express my sorrow. Bev, you and I have become friends over the past year or two and I have come to respect you and love you. However much I would have liked to have helped you through this terrible crisis, I know that there was nothing more I could do, but to be here for you to talk to, 24/7. You, my dear friend and your family have my deepest, most sincere condolences and my assurances that the 24/7 is still here for you.

Whatever I can do, I will do. Whether you need a shoulder to cry on, someone to vent to, whatever it is, I am here for you.

Catherine Linda Michel

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So sorry

I can't say how saddened I am by this news. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Michelle

You have

my biggest most gentle of hugs. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Grover

Special huggles for you

Not much more I can say :(

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You can't choose your relatives but you can choose your family.

I am so sorry hon.

I wish I had more to offer than a virtual huggle, but its all I got ...

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It always hurts

erin's picture

Even when expected.

Please know that you are in our thoughts, Bev.

Hugs,
Erin

= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.

Hugs

terrynaut's picture

I'm so very sorry to hear that, Bev. You have my condolences.

*hug*

- Terry

Oh Beverly

Amethyst's picture

I am so saddened to hear about your loss. Losing someone you've loved and been close to for that long is the worst kind of pain. You have my condolences and you will be in my thoughts.

*loving hugs*

Amethyst

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Don't take me too seriously. I'm just kitten around. :3

Dear Bev, I am so sorry for

Dear Bev, I am so sorry for you. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. You are in my thoughts and I'm sending you all the positive energy I can muster.

Kris

{I leave a trail of Kudos as I browse the site. Be careful where you step!}

Oh my dear

You have my heart felt tears and sympathy.

Take care of yourself, Beverly

So often the surviving spouse, the "caretaker" is so stressed emotionally and physically by caring for the other that their health is damaged and they die not long after.

You have many friends and admirers here at BC.

If a kind word and a sympathetic ear can help, please do so.

John in Wauwatosa

John in Wauwatosa

No words are adequate.

There is nothing I can say that will help.

I weep for your loss. Hold tight to her memory for that is how she lives on, in your heart and soul.

You are much loved.

((hugs))

Abby

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I'm so sorry

Bev -
I wish there was something that could possibly make you feel better. You and Helen will be in my prayers.

Monica.

oh no

Andrea Lena's picture

I am so very sorry for your loss.

  

To be alive is to be vulnerable. Madeleine L'Engle
Love, Andrea Lena

I know this hurts so much...

It is my hope that in time the pain will fade a bit. I don't say it will go away entirely. Many of us here have experienced similar pain though not just like yours. Don't be ashamed; go grieve or be angry.

Many of us here are available to talk when you need to. I have your number, so that implies that you have mine. After I go to bed I will leave my phone on the bedside stand. So, if you wish to talk, wake me up.

Much peace

Gwen

...

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.


I wear this crown of thorns
Upon my liar's chair
Full of broken thoughts
I cannot repair

There are never words,

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I don't know your beliefs, but I've always believed Death is not an end, but a new beginning.

Oh my....

So sorry to hear this. Beverly dear, please except my condolences for your loss. Sending loving Hugs, Talia

Beverly..

to you and your family, my heartfelt condolences on your great loss.

Ruth

May the sun always shine on your parade

Dear Bev

My sincere condolences.

It will be the little things that you will remember, the quiet moments, the smiles, the laughter, and although it may seem hard right now, it will be the memories of these little things that help to push away the pain and bring the smiles back again.

Yours lovingly

Julia

Condolences..

Beverly, I cannot express in words how sorry I am to hear that! My spouse and I have been married for 30 years now and she is also my best friend and confidant. My heart goes out to you in your time of grief dear!

So very sorry to hear this.

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I can only imagine how you must be feeling, and don't have the words to express it.

You and your son, are in my thoughts today.

Hugs,

Kristy

Grieving

Dear Beverly,

May your grief be able to run its course. And may you be able to share this grief with your son. I hope that you have dear friends who can lend a physical shoulder for support in this time of need and distress.

Jessica

So sorry

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Bev, sorry to hear that. My prayers are with you.

Hugs
Patricia

Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
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Ich bin eine Mann

No one knows how you feel

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No one is you nor had your life experiences. I could tell you mine but it would be empty meaningless words. So many things we share in this life even though we never met physically. Even then the words, the emotions break upon the surface of heartache and sorrow when losing a friend and a love no longer in our arms.

Very few are blessed with their greatest friend also being their love, the one we shared a lifetime with. We said "I love you." thousands of times and when they are no longer there it was never enough. We walk in the door and call their name in desperate prayer it was a bad nightmare. We turn and talk to them when looking at an item in the store, the same as we did all our lives.

At night on our knees, through the tears, we ask God why? We started out life together we were supposed to finish together. The memories we made together through so many years are ours alone now. To be carefully cherished until God grants us our place in His Kingdom.

Have faith little one. I promise with all my heart and soul He is real. His Kingdom is real. Friends and family have not died. They gave up an imperfect mortal body and await us. Believe, don't believe, God gives most everyone a choice. I don't have that choice. I died once already in this life. He's real. Your friend, your lover is no longer struggling with an imperfect body but checking over a perfect one.

Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl

Very sad to hear that

and wishing there was something I could do to send you comfort. I guess all I can do is assure you that we are thinking of you and sending good thoughts.

Nothing to say ...

... that could possibly ease your pain but my thoughts are with you. My heart goes out to you.

Robi

Dear Beverly

I am so sorry. I missed this earlier posting. My heart is for you.

Much love,

Much Love,

Valerie R

There's nothing to be said in

There's nothing to be said in these cases. She passed with the love of you and her son, what more can a person ask for.
Cancer is such an evil thing, I've fought it off 3 times.thanks to the love of those around me.
My heartfelt condolances.
Karen Lockhart