Had an interesting experience today whilst out cycling.

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Had an interesting experience today.

It being a surprisingly sunny and warm Sunday morning, I phoned the cycle club and confirmed the destination for the club ride. Being the slowest rider in the regular riders I agreed to go out early and make my own way to the café because I'm still struggling with fitness after missing Jan and Feb with nursing my dad-in-law.

Well I left home very early and I arrived at eleven after choosing my own circuitous route, bought my coffee and Welsh cakes and settled down on the outside tables to enjoy the glorious sunshine. The club were going to be arriving in 'dribs and drabs' because so many had turned out on such a glorious morning. They had divided into three groups and all arranged to rendezvous at or around 1130 so I had half an hour to kill.

As is usual when I cycle alone, I usually go out in rather feminine mode wearing girly Lycra that includes a white short-sleeve top with pink flowers, a push up bra to stop my boobs from chafing and pretty purple, Lycra Capri-pants. Naturally I'm not wearing make-up so there is absolutely no chance of my 'passing'.

I have removed my club jacket because it is quite warm and it's draped over the handlebars of my bike locked to the railings.

Well I'm sitting, minding my own business at Dame Patti's castle and watching the ducks getting amorous on the pond whilst sipping my coffee and nibbling my Welsh-cakes. However there's this somewhat attractive lady about thirty-ish in Hiking boots and she's quite tall who keeps looking at me but not showing any expression and not saying anything, not even 'good-morning'. We are the only two people eating outside at that stage and we are seated at different adjoining tables. After catching her looking at me she, realises I have clocked her checking my boobs but I just turn away and continue watching the ducks. I know she's looking at me but what do I care?

Eventually I hear voices coming through the gates and the rattle of bike wheels on the 'cattle-grid' tells me some of the club have arrived. They immediately come over and plonk all their helmets on my and the adjoining tables then order their coffees and whatever. After the usual exclamations of pleasure at seeing me they settle down to chatting and soon a happy friendly atmosphere is enveloping us all. The conversation is mostly about who's come riding, who's crashed, who's injured etc, etc. Then they ask me how the fitness is coming and I dwell briefly on my slow progress. Inevitably my friend Selwyn asks if I had a good weekend. I tell him I haven't been out and that I'll not be going clubbing again until early June.

"Oh, so we'll be seeing you down the cycle club on the next two Fridays."

I nod then he asks if I can do some marshalling for the President's race and I agree.

"Good," says he. "It'll be nice having you there."

Well the banter carries on and one thing leads to another, until another comment is asked of my fitness by a lady who has not been out riding all winter.

"How come you're not getting fitter, if you've been riding again since March Bev?"

"Oh one thing and another," I explain, "I'll never put on the muscle to keep up with the boys."
She frowns and quickly makes some connection between my obviously feminine appearance and my prominent boobs. I don't have the usual 'whip-chord' legs of a male cyclist.

"So why's that Bev?" She asks.

Now all the regular crowd know of my condition and it's long ceased to be even a matter of comment. Bev's got boobs and a cleavage and he's some sort of tranny; so what? Rain's wet, the sky's blue; ... end of. But this lady is one of about six newcomers who have only resumed coming out now that Summer seems to have arrived. She knows nothing about Beverly except for the occasional remark she's heard in the club.

Naturally I hesitate and Glance at Selwyn who's the club Vice captain and we both glance at Spot who is the Club captain and ride leader for the middle crowd that morning. He nods, shrugs his shoulders and resumes sipping his coffee. So I tell her quite openly that I'm an intergendered transvestite who takes hormones and the female hormones prevent me from developing male muscles and stamina.

Naturally, she and the other newcomers are curious so I explain a little further then to our surprise the tall, attractive hiking lady introduces herself.

"Excuse me, I couldn't help overhearing your remarks, are you Beverly, Beverly Taff and a friend of Mandy's."

I pause uncertainly wondering how this woman knew my friend's tranny name. Mandy has begun living in the role prior to any decisions regarding transitioning, but she's still living with her wife and children as X--- and she's only known as X--- in the town, nobody knows of her wild club scene life and I'm not about to reveal anything. However, this woman obviously knows Mandy because she goes on to explain that she's Mandy's therapist. For a moment I'm shocked that a so called doctor would reveal such confidential information but then I realise nobody knows my friend as Mandy. It's her secret clubbing name.

Consequently this lady psychiatrist has, all importantly, not divulged any confidential stuff. She asks again if I am Beverly, Mandy's cycling friend. My mind is still racing but Selwyn steps in protectively and furthermore he uses the FEMALE pronoun.

"What if she is Beverly, so what?"

The lady realises that she might have overstepped the mark at least in such a public arena but I simply shrug and follow Selwyn's remark.

"Yes. I am, why do you ask?"

She apologises for being so forward then turns to the boys who are all watching her like a hawk.

"And you cycle in that outfit. I'm impressed."

By now I can sense some of the regulars getting somewhat defensive as once again Selwyn intervenes.

"What if she does?"

She realises she is treading on thin ice but she is after-all a seemingly single woman and we as a group of twenty cyclists could hardly behave overbearingly. She goes on to explain.

"I am impressed that you find acceptance amongst your colleagues."

"Why shouldn't I?"

Once again Selwyn steps in.

"Listen miss, this is a cycling club, everybody here is a cyclist from 'Tank' who is a semi-professional to Bev who is our slowest regular rider. We accept anybody who rides a bike."

The woman replied.

"That's what I mean, I'm impressed."

She went on to briefly applaud the club and explain how she worked as a psychiatrist who invariably had to deal with the problems that TS people had to deal with. She said it was a breath of fresh air to see acceptance in the club.

At these words I remark.

"I love this club, they don't judge and they don't discriminate and yes, I am the slowest regular rider."

Les the secretary grins and says "Thanks Bev. Will you be marshalling in the President's race?"

I nod then Spot, the captain and ever quick to spot a potential new member asks the psychiatrist.

"If you like our club, why don't you come cycling with us? You look like an active person and we need a club doctor."

"Well ain't that the truth!" I laugh because just before the conversation came around to my gender issues, the members had been lamenting the injuries that had hit the club. In the last week Selwyn had cracked two ribs and damaged some ligaments to his scapula; Spot had dislocated his Elbow while Tank had gone head over handle-bars whilst training at speed.

The lady actually smiled and intimated that she might be interested so we wait hopefully cos' truthfully, we do need a bloody doctor on our rides, there's some mad buggers in the club. Mad but decent. I can vouch for that.

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That was very interesting

littlerocksilver's picture

Sounds like you have a great support group, and I think you've said that before. Sounds like a great Sunday, overall.

Portia

It is quite surprising...

Most counselors would have the discretion not to "out" you in public. Still, if you all get on well, who am I? It is good to see that you are so well accepted.

My situation is very nice also. I am not sure where so many blind people came from. They seem to drive their cars around without hitting anything. :) They treat me like a Welsh princess, what a head spinner.

Much PEACE

Gwendolyn

Outing me.

Not quite outing me Gwen, I was already openly describing stuff about my intergenderism to the newcomers. This therapist had been listening intently before introducing herself. I don't think she crossed any confidentiality lines and she had already been listening so she had sounded out the situation. I am well and truly out in my cycle club.
The only restriction I apply to myself is that I don't go near the children's section. By my own volition, I do not assist with the riding and road awareness lessons that the club organises in the sports shed next door to the community centre where we hold the club meetings. I do not go near the children and this avoids any potential for adverse reactions or criticism of the club.

My main contribution to the club is as a marshall in the races and time trials and sometimes as a 'bike ambulance' with my transit van if and when somebody has a serious crash. Especially when racing. All in all I get a lot of pleasure out of my cycling and belonging to what can only be construed as the first club to accept my condition. They're a great bunch if perhaps a little competitive.

XX
Bevs.

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That doctor

Angharad's picture

was sailing close to the wind re confidentiality and shouldn't have mentioned her client's name in any shape or form, had she wished to discuss your situation, she needn't have mentioned anyone else, because your position was being discussed by club members.

Peculiarly, cycling clubs tend to see cycling as the primary aim of the club and there is a camaraderie in most of them, having said that we have one member who is shunned by some of the others because he's a bit of a slob. As secretary I deliberately speak to him if he comes out on rides or we stop for refreshment. I despise snobbery.

Angharad

Well done Ang.

Truly there 'aint' any snobs in Port Talbot Wheelers. (Come on this Port Talbot I'm talking about,) The town of smoke, smells and sulphur. Everybody in South Wales considers our town to be the dirtiest town in Wales and in truth they're probably right. Nobody but nobody could live in Port Talbot and have any pretensions to grandeur or class.

My kind of town, down to earth, friendly and unusually, very cosmopolitan; that's cos' of the numerous immigrations the town enjoys as people from all over still come seeking real work with proper salaries.

That said we have a very wide range of membership that even includes a high-court judge and he rides quite regularly on the 10 am Sunday club rides. We also have two guys with learning difficulties and one of them is a bloody good time trialist. He's often out on the Sunday 'bash' that rides out at 9-30am and usually meets up with the 10 am at the pre-arranged café. (Boy do we love our cafe's.)

I am definitely one of the slowest regular riders in our club but I have no need to be ashamed. The standard is quite high, We have two semi-professional riders riding for NFTO and last years junior British Road racing champion was Dan Pearson, he's one of ours.

Truly Ang, I have grown to love my cycling and without wishing to sound sychophantic, I was partly influenced by 'Bike'

The club treat me very well and it is the first place where I have ever felt at ease with people knowing about me. You're quite right about cycling clubs, it is all about bikes!

Bev.

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Interesting happening.

While it's rather intersting to read about the exchange with the therapist, i can only agree with you Bev and Angharad about cycling clubs being more accepting than others. My own experience is very similar. With some guys i could even discuss my training improvements while already being way into HRT. The same goes actually also with the Goth scene which I happen to get more and more involved with mainly because they are not so much into drinking but still enjoying dances and good music when it comes to clubbing.
Anyway, what worries me more is the number of incidents you seem to have in your ranks. Do you cycle more ruthlessly or why do you have so many injuries in sucha short time?

Saphira

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>> There is not one single truth out there. <<

Number of incidents.

Hi Saphira,

I don't think we have any more incidents than other clubs. This particular week has been unusual but I suppose we have about one faller or crash a month on average. I don't know if that's unusual or not but we are a large club by British standards. We number about one hundred members and that makes us the second biggest club in Wales. Of that hundred, about thirty get out at least three times a week or more. I get out about five days per week. I'd do more but I have other interests!!! There are about a dozen who ride every day, mostly as individuals but also in groups as and when. Oh; and of course there are the Mountain bikers ... the dark side so to speak and they have endless falls and spills.

I think the incident number is simply down to percentages. There are a lot of Port Talbot wheelers out there. Also, as I told Angharad, there is a hard-core of about fifteen ruthless, hard men who go like hell. I, like most others in the club, avoid them like the plague cos' they give everybody else a good kicking and they are obsessively competitive. I suppose every club has a few of these.

I have my own Tuesday group and Thursday group and the other days I go out alone. On Sundays, I usually check out on the website and start early to rendezvous at the pre-arranged venue. Then I cycle back sometimes alone and sometimes with the debris that's been kicked out of the hard gang.

You are right though, I love the club because it's all about bikes and cycling. All are welcome, even crazy, off-the-wall, itergendered, transvestites.

Bevs xx

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According to HQ

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We have 304 members in our catchment area, we rarely see more than about thirty or forty who regularly ride in group rides, most of our membership are only members because CTC offers free third party insurance to members. Most are probably solo riders or family groups.

Like you, Bev, I'm like a clockwork slug, especially on hills - not always the slowest but nearly so. I blame oestrogen and my bad back, as Bonzi said, it has nothing to do with my BMI, I'm just unable to pedal fast enough.

I'm delighted that Bike encouraged you to ride again, Gaby helped me to dust off the velocipede - I only wish I could ride as well as that kid appears to.

Angharad

Free insurance...

LOL. I'd so join a club just because they offered that if their prices were right. As in significantly lower than just paying the premiums myself.

I'd even be able to probably convince someone to pay them for me since I'm in no position to do so myself atm.

Medical costs being what they are in the States I've just gotta be without anything at all right now...

Abigail Drew.