Suicide is called a selfish act, yes. But that is not correct. Suicide is an act of desperation (mostly). I've been there or close many times and yes all that stopped me was the effect it would have on others. Can you conceive of the unfairness of this? That people who hardly or never bother to see you have a claim on your life? That they can demand that you live in misery so that they can see you once a year or less?

A few years ago I lost my closest friend to suicide. If I had got off my arse I could have done something about it. I had a pretty good idea where he went when he went missing and he gave the world a week to find him. I just got on with my own life because I didn't think he would do it and he made no threats of it. He needed more help and no one realised it.

Yes, I could have done something and no I don't feel guilty. Things happend as they did and I lost my friend. But selfish on their part? NFW.

From my own suicidal ideations I understand that it is unfair to demand someone live a life they cannot bear unless you are willing to share that burden Twenty-four by seven. Isn't that the selfish act?

Anyway, all I can say to you is don't feel guilty but don't blame them or think them selfish either. It is not a perfect world. It is as it is.