We can only really speak from the context we're familiar with, i.e. contemporary Western society, where there's a combination of laws and cultural expectations to protect women and move towards treating them as equals. Change takes a long time - even in our society, until the 1960s if a woman got married she was expected to immediately give up her job and spend the rest of her life as a housekeeper. There are plenty of instructional books and videos from the 1950s where the (inevitably) male narrator espoused the concept that the primary role of a wife was to wait on her husband hand and foot, to make his home life as easy and as stress-free as possible after he'd spent a hard day (yeah, right, sure, as if) at the office. The last Magdalene Asylum in Ireland closed as late as 1996.

As the phenomenon became more widespread, it extended beyond prostitution to unmarried mothers, mentally retarded women, and abused girls. Even young girls who were considered too promiscuous and flirtatious, or too beautiful, were sent to an asylum by their respective families. This paralleled the practice in state-run asylums in Britain and Ireland in the same period, where many people with alleged "social dysfunction" were committed to asylums. The women were typically admitted to these institutions at the request of family members (mostly men). Without a family member on the outside who would vouch for them, many incarcerated individuals would stay in the asylums for the rest of their lives, many of them taking religious vows.

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In less liberal countries, there's almost a combined legal, social and cultural expectation that men should behave irresponsibly - while the proportion of men who, if separated from any such influence, would act negatively towards women may be the same as elsewhere; with those societies geared around the abuse of women and dissenting voices quickly silenced by the powers-that-be, far more men are likely to behave irresponsibly because their country's history, law, society and culture has taught them from childhood that they're superior to women and can treat them however they want to. With nobody to tell them that such behaviour is wrong, they're likely to carry on with impunity because they do not believe that there's anything wrong in what they're doing (and what they've been doing for the past however many thousand years).

We know it's wrong and abhorrent, but they don't. Even worse, due to all the above factors, it's quite likely that many of the women who undergo such abuse believe they're inferior to men and so know, expect and accept such treatment. Effectively challenging such long-held notions is going to be a tough and slow process - Western nations barging in and overthrowing the government do not result in an overnight conversion to Western moral standards, and even when moral standards start to improve there's a significant group of people (probably mainly men) who resist such improvements and will do anything (including mass murder) to return to what they consider as more moral times when "men were men and women knew their place". When they've been acting that way for thousands of years, changing them for the better will be like trying to turn the proverbial supertanker. It will (probably) happen eventually, but what's needed is generations worth of diplomatic pressure and an increasing momentum as the (slightly) more liberal countries in the region implement reform. When the Western countries currently in Afghanistan pull out, that will prove a useful test case - will the relatively fragile reforms to improve women's rights hold or will the Taliban wrest control back again?