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I was reading some of the other blogs yesterday and I read one that seem to get how I feel. I can not remember who exactly it was anymore. I feel like I am a girl in a boy's body, but I do like to have the body I am in at times. So I am not confuse about somethings, but I am confuse on what I discovered about myself. That does not seem right at all. Is it just so I can relax or is it just in my mind. I just do not know at all.
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It isn't a problem, if that's what you mean.
We aren't all in the same place on the transgender spectrum.
When you say that it doesn't seem right at all, it sounds like you are concerned about fitting neatly into some category. Having conflicting feelings is normal.
So, yes, you can relax. It can take a while to figure out who you are and what you need or want to do.
Kaleigh
Thanks
I was not sure if it is the right one for me or not right now. Like I said I not sure about myself right now and trying to figure it out.
that box feeling.
I have spent my entire life trying to find why I am a square peg surrounded by round holes. You are not alone.
I don't fit any 'catagory' so I have to make my own road.
Square pegs are not a problem its the round holes
I went through a military career knowing I didn't fit, I did my best to adjust and when I retired I still felt out of sorts.
I did not want to be catagorized in one specific area, but I also know that cross dressing was not going to be a release.
Today after learning that I was born intersexed, I consider myself female. There are no male clothing in my home. My home is decorated in a feminine motif.
Once I accepted myself for who I am things got easier.
don't try to put yourself in a category, if you feel good about either way you dress go with it, you have one thing over other males, You are in touch with your feminine side, that is a plus especially around other women.
Enjoy yourself, don't feel guilty or concerned because you enjoy both aspects of your life. You are you and a unique individual, don't let anyone tell you different.
Jill Micayla
Be kinder than necessary,Because everyone you meet
Is fighting some kind of battle.
Jill Micayla
Be kinder than necessary,Because everyone you meet
Is fighting some kind of battle.
Tels is right
However you want to describe us Gender Variants it's not so much we're trying to force ourselves into the wrong category (Square peg into round hole) but that we fit none of the traditional ones approved by our society. Things are slowly changing but we're not there yet.
As far as confused goes, you're not alone! This is a journey of discovery that is different for each of us. Some are drawn to become completely female while others are somewhere inbetween. I've joked before about being like a Reese's peanut butter cup. I've got too much Yin in my Yang. By that I mean I have a much more pronounced feminine side than our culture is comfortable with. However I don't have any animosity towards my genitals. If anything I'm rather neutral, but considering how much I hate being cut or stabbed (surgery/shots) they can just stay the way they are.
Sure the other accounts here are good guides, but only that. Where you are in the spectrum is going to be up to you to discover. Also a therapist will help a lot too. I'm happy to moving soon because I'll be closer to getting a little help to guide me on my own journey.
Sorry didn't mean to preach! This won't happen all at once, but the most important part is to put as much of the guilt and beating yourself up over things you can't do anything about away. Be positive and care about yourself!
Sorry didn't mean to preach!
hugs
Grover