Just two days after Thanksgiving my main supporter in being transgender died at the age of 67. She had been suffering for fifteen years with work related Asthma and Fibromyalgia. My mother had even supported me when I lost my job by loaning me money to live on while I looked for a new job. My current job is about to run out in January and she had left me enough money to live on for the next couple of years and a house to live in.
I had my sister came up to help with all the issues and the funeral which was a big help. I finally had to come out to my sister that one day I plan to have the surgery to become female. She told me that she still loves me and that she will not stop loving me and her family is totally OK with me also which is a big load off of me. I could not carry on trying to do this without my sister be there when needed since my mother is no longer with me.
hugs,
Jennifer Boyle (jennaFL)
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May she rest in peace
RAMI
May your mother rest in peace. She was a loving parent in her support of you.
Rami
RAMI
I have always been grateful for all the understanding
... I have received from people, sometimes in unexpected circumstances. My mom did not go that far though so I understand how wonderful it must have been for you to have a mom and feel for your loss.
Kim
Losing your mother...
Jennifer,
I too lost my mother at a very young age, she left the world suddenly at age 59 and at 22 my life was turned upside down. Although one day I know I will see her again, the hurt is still there over 25 years later. Keep her memory close to your heart, she may be gone but will be looking over you for the rest of your own life.
May you find peace in your memories of a cherished love.
Anon Allsop
Anon Allsop
Dear Jenna
...I am so sorry for your loss. Such a caring sister; you both have my condolences.
Dio vi benedica tutti
Con grande amore e di affetto
Andrea Lena
Love, Andrea Lena
Hugs
Just hugs.
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
i totally like..
I totally like understand.
My own dearly departed mother remains to have been the only person to love me with not a single condition, or expectance.
To her I was her child, nothing more, nothing less. Christmas remains the hardest time of year for me, I cannot look at a christmas tree without breaking into tears.
I would love to be able to say that the pain dies down in intensity or that you could get used to it. It does not however.
Be brave and move one foot infront of the other.
Dear Jennifer,
ALISON
You will always have the acceptance of your dear Mother to remember.
May she rest in peace and may God bless her.You are in my prayers.
ALISON
My condolences on the loss
My condolences on the loss of your mother. I lost mine nine years ago and the first year was the hardest.
Please accept our condolences Jenna
We are thinking of you in this sad time, take care of yourself.
LoL
Rita and Family
I'm a dyslexic agnostic insomniac.
'Someone who lies awake at night wondering if there's a dog.'
Age is an issue of mind over matter.
If you don't mind, it doesn't matter!
(Mark Twain)
LoL
Rita
Please accept our condolences Jenna
sorry
Age is an issue of mind over matter.
If you don't mind, it doesn't matter!
(Mark Twain)
LoL
Rita
Words are inadequate
so just hugs.
Angharad
Angharad
My sympathies on your loss Jenna
Words from friends and strangers cannot relieve that pain of loss of a beloved parent, I know that as well my Dad who always loved and supported me passed several years ago and I still feel it today. May you find solace in her memories of love and support for you and thinking later on the funny happy times you shared. Laughter is the best medicine, it feels good later to remember some fun time or funny thing she did that made you both laugh and enjoy your lives together.
Peace and long life to you Jenna!
Nikki Thong
"Be loving, forgiving, open, happy, sharing, thoughtful, musical, cry a little everyday, but for goodness sakes be honest with yourself!"
"Satin makes me sooooo happy! Giggles!"
Nikki Thong
"Be loving, forgiving, open, happy, sharing, thoughtful, musical, cry a little everyday, but for goodness sakes be honest with yourself!"
"Satin makes me sooooo happy! Giggles!"
Mourning
You have my sympathies. Please take your time to mourn the loss of your mother. From personal experience I know the importance of taking your time and doing a proper job of the whole mourning process. Take your time and get a proper closure - you have to determine what that is for you yourself - for your loss. Even though your will still remember your loss, it will not be a (bad) pain.
Hugs from warm South America,
Jessica
sorry for your loss, hon.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs.
Dorothycolleen, member of Bailey's Angels
I'm so sorry, Jenna
I lost my mum when In 82. She's been gone for much longer than I had her.
If you include the year and a half she was so ill, and was not the person,
it seems like forever.
I look at folks who have their parents with them for so long, and I can't
help but think how lucky they are; but, when they are like you and your mum,
maintaining a good close relationship, it is a precious gift. I expect,
that your mother knew this too.
Tell your sister she's amazing. Tell her that you love her. And while
you are at it, tell yourself how lucky you are, even if it doesn't feel that
way every single day.
I'm sorry about your mum, Jenna, and I'll be thinking of your and your
family. Don't forget to blog if you feel the need to talk, and to let
folks hear how you are doing. Awesome people here, many of whom care, and
truly want to hear.
Sarah Lynn