How quickly things can change

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Nearly two weeks ago, I told you that Penny and I would be going to go on a lightning trip to France to look at a couple of houses.

The history is that we've been wanting to buy a house in France for years - literally and after the global financial collapse, the change in value of the Euro, life seemed to say that we weren't going to do it. This was after having been to Normandy and Poitou Charente to look at houses and being disappointed at what was really available.

Then recently, we saw a programme on the Mayenne. For those who don't know, this is northern France just below Normandy; a couple of hours drive south from the port at Cherbourg. Prices there seem really quite reasonable and lo and behold, we found several that were not only in budget, but also habitable.

We made enquiries and in a flash, we got a phone call from a woman in a place called Passais La Conception - which is right on the border between Orne in Normandy and the Mayenne - to tell us about a four bedroomed house with an old butcher's shop (which had long since ceased trading) and a self contained flat, separate from the house itself. I couldn't believe the price and if nothing else, there was always a chance that we could supplement the cost of running the house by renting out the flat.

So hence the sudden need to drive all the way down and all the way back in one day.

We saw the place and put in an offer there and then, signing all the paperwork, getting the details for a French bank account sorted. We've been waiting on tenter hooks ever since.

Well, apart from some minor faults, which I can fix at my leisure, the house has passed inspection, the owner has accepted our somewhat daft offer and the sale is actually going through as we speak (in a manner of speaking that is).

Now this is all on the strength of me having this nice, bright, shiny new job. Not because we needed the money to buy the place, but we would need the extra income to decorate and more importantly, visit. It's not cheap getting to and from France by car--even less so by any other method of transport.

Everything seemed to be on the up and up, right?

That's what we thought too and the excitement of being able to have a place in France finally coming to fruition was - and still is - mounting steadily. I'd even told Pen I would be happy to get rid of my convertible and get something a little more practical for ferrying bits and pieces to the house to do up the flat and get it ready for renting out - which as luck would have it, is imminent.

So having been in my job for just one week and two days, the visit to France and its possibilities fresh in my mind, I got in the car at 06:30 last Wednesday morning to begin the 60 mile trip to work only to get no further than half way.

My route through from where I live to work, took me along a notorious stretch of the A303 and as I approached a turn off that led to RNAS Yeovilton, a military base, a chap in a Mazda Bongo (where DO they get these names?) one of those people carriers, decided to nip across my lane from the oncoming traffic flow, crossing my path and leaving me with nowhere to go.

I tried to swerve, standing on my brakes and gritting my teeth, while my knuckles whitened with the tension of the steering wheel, but with no effect - well, not enough to prevent the inevitable.

The impact was guess-timated at around fifty mph (80 kmh) and my car was wrecked, losing most of its front end, while taking off the front of the other driver's vehicle.

Christ it hurt.

The air bags went off causing contusions and bruising to my face and in the moment before impact, I had raised my right arm to protect myself, winding up slamming it against the windscreen. The windscreen broke, leaving me with severe bruising and contusions to my elbow as well as pretty severe bruising from the seat belt on the other side of my body. It may not sound much, but it was enough to keep me off work.

The policeman was surprised to see me get out of the car and walk to the ambulance, but not half as surprised as I was, I can tell you.

I had to wait for the better part of an hour before Pen arrived to get me. I don't think this helped matters, having spent an hour in the cold and wind already, sorting out things with the policeman, ambulance and others, but when I got home, I rang work and told them what had happened. I told them that I probably wouldn't be in for the rest of the week and they seemed quite happy; quite conciliatory in fact.

The weekend came and went, during which, I found getting about much harder than I thought, as it hurt big time to stand up, sit down, laugh, cough, hiccough, go to the toilet, wash, shower and dry off afterwards and don't even get me started on sneezing, which I did quite a lot after inhaling the talcum powder that smothered the air bags.

Sunday, I was told I should stay off work a little longer. It wasn't just the eight hours of work that Pen was worried about, but the three hours or more of driving either side of that. I have the possibility of a hire car, courtesy of my insurance company, so that wouldn't have been a problem and since sleeping has been an issue since the accident, I decided to take her advice.

Work were not impressed, I could tell from the tone of voice of the person I spoke to and later yesterday afternoon, I was told by my agency that I needn't bother going back.

I was devastated and whilst I knew that the accident wasn't my fault - I mean, I wasn't the one crossing lanes to turn off - I am able to claim for pain, suffering and loss of earnings, but I don't know to what degree. Whilst my injuries have not resulted in broken bones or loss of limbs, whatever, I've still sustained a nasty bout of whiplash, lost my car and my job and all that entails.

It was the first job I'd had since September '08 and this was to be me getting my foot back on the career ladder. Now, I not only don't have the job - a job that was supposed to last until mid September and possibly go permanent - I don't have that recent experience everyone thinks is so important either.

We're now beginning to think that this is fate stepping in and telling us that we need to move out to France and live there permanently. Perhaps that's so, but we don't have the house yet. With the way things have been going, I wouldn't like to bet on us getting it either - as hard as that is to swallow.

Still, when all's said and done, I'm alive and just as God damn ugly as I was before.

If the house IS ours and the sale DOES go through, there's every possibility that we're going to bugger off for good, but we'll have to wait and see...

Hugs

Nick

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A saying...

There's a saying:
"Let go and let God"
Even if you're not religous I've found the most amazing things happen when you surrender and let life take control.

Let God?

If you can change that and say "Let fate," I would be in total agreement.

There have been a number of notable times in our lives that this has been exactly the case. We get carried on a current and have little or no say in what happens, we have just had to go with it. This has been one of those times.

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally a fatalist

Let it be...

Just please, make it less painful and costly next time, eh?

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally not into car crashes

How quickly things can change

Nick, what you two have gone through would make quite a movie.

    Stanman
May Your Light Forever Shine
    Stanman
May Your Light Forever Shine

A movie?

I wonder who we could get to write the script?

I'm a particular fan of James Cameron, but I'm not sure that the subject matter is up his street. I mean, you could hardly liken our lives to Terminator, The Abyss, Avatar, True Lies or Aliens, so perhaps not him.

As much as Pen and I liked Buffy The Vampire Slayer, Dollhouse and Angel, not to mention his masterpiece, Serenity, I think Joss Whedon is out of the running. Shame. I think Anthony Head would make a great me and we could always grab Cordelia (Charisma Carpenter) to play Pen. Yeah right; dream on buster.

There's not enough action for Luc Besson and whilst I loved Fifth Element, I don't think our lives are even distantly reminiscent of that. As for others of his, I would look a little silly being played by Jet Lee (Kiss of the Dragon) or Jason Statham (Transporter trilogy). David Belle (District 13) who invented Parkour (you lot call it free running) would be good, but he's a little short compared to me. I think that's Luc Besson out too.

Perhaps Graham Yost - who wrote Speed - would be a good choice. I'm sure Pen would like the idea of being played by Sandra Bullock (artistic licence) and I would love to be portrayed by Keanu Reeves (even more artistic licence :) ).

Hmm. I like the sound of that :)

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally into being portrayed on celluloid

As Long As It's Not Cronenberg

joannebarbarella's picture

And you're not portrayed by Jeff Goldblum.

Nick, I'm so sorry. You do have the most abysmal luck.

I hope you can get some reasonable compensation. Is there any chance of damages for the loss of your job? I know these things take forever. Is your employer entitled to just get rid of you like that? I have no idea of the UK employment laws these days.

Whatever, I hope the sale goes through because I also know how long you have been wanting France,

Joanne

No it would be Kronenbourg at the very least

The fact is, as far as the job's concerned, I was a contractor. I know that means different things in different countries, but here in the UK, it means I'm something like a temporary member of staff and there to do a specific job. I don't have the job now, but were I not to have taken time off due to injury, I may well have lasted the course until September. The kicker is that there was talk in the beginning that I may have been taken on full time after three to six months - all things remaining equal.

So, compensation.

I would like to say that I would have lasted the course, but I don't know. I would also like to say that I would have gone on to become a full-time, permanent member of their staff, but I don't know that either and what's more, I haven't had the opportunity to find out. If you take into consideration the fact that I'm 50 years old, haven't had work since Sept 08 and therefore, don't possess the recent experience everyone is so keen on nowadays, there's every likelihood that finding another job once fit and well again, could take another three years.

I know British compensation laws, rules and regulations are nowhere near what they are in the States (shame), but I am going to make sure that I get paid for this and we're not talking a few Amazon vouchers either.

I'm sure the house purchase will go through - well, fingers crossed...

Thanks Jo.

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally going to make sure I get compensated...

Kronenbourg?

[Iron Maiden]

"1-6-6-4
The number of the beast!"

[/IM]

Run to the hills?

Run for our lives :)

France: it's the best way for us to experience a better quality of life

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally a Francophile

So terribly sorry...

....at your news Nick.

Just when everything was looking so good. Going so well.

Nothing much to offer but deepest sympathy and my very best wishes that this is but a hiccup on the way.

Yours ever

FleurieFleurie

Fleurie

Thank you, Fleurie

I'm sure it is nothing more than a hiccup.

We have been assured that there is nothing standing in our way regarding the purchase of the house, so we just want to go there and be in it.

Here's hoping that the bad luck ends here - for a while anyway.

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally up for a change

Sorry to hear of your tribulations ...

.... one does wonder (*pun intended*) at the 'Flying Fickle Finger of Fate'.

Talking of which, if memory serves, the nearest airport to La Mayenne (ok, assuming Laval is central to Mayenne - extremities may be different) is Rennes, and they have FlyBe services out of Exeter and So'ton, I think. A friend has a house not far from Rennes, and purchased an absolute clunker in France, parks it an easy bus ride from Rennes airport, and uses that rather than pay the iniquitous charges for crossing the Channel - all cross-channel ferries are the most expensive in the world by a factor of something like 8! Anyway, said friend, Richard, says he gets fares as low as 40 € per person one-way. You may like to think about that as an option.

"The Cost of Living Does Not Appear To Have Affected Its Popularity"in most, but not all, instances

"The Cost of Living Does Not Appear To Have Affected Its Popularity"in most, but not all, instances

Flying to France...

It's a good idea, but I don't think it actually works out any cheaper in this case. We need to be able to take tools, materials and other stuff over and the best way for that is to have a capacious car. Our owner's club membership means we'll get our subsequent trips on the ferry much cheaper. However, once finished, I think it may well be worth considering.

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally into the back and forth...

I've had luck like that

and it's so not a good thing. The good news is despite the pain, no lasting damage like broken bones or worse occurred. However, since I lost a job the same way, because of a car accident, I understand completely. I'm reminded of that movie with Dan Akyod and Eddie Murphy "Trading Places." Having lost everything, he's standing on the corner and just pulled the trigger to a gun he had to his head. The pistol misfires, a bus splashes icy water all over him, and it begins to rain. The sad, numb look on his face said it all. Fortunately, things aren't that bad for you! :)

They say life on the Continent is good for you.

Hugs!
Grover

The way my luck usually runs...

If I fell into a barrel of tits, I'd come up sucking my thumb.

This is one bit of luck I feel could not be bettered. I'm due to get the photos of the car after it all happened some time this weekend and I think I will be reminded of how narrow an escape I really had.

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally lucky to have got away with as little as I have

Nick,

ALISON

'I am so sorry to hear of your accident,but after 25 years as a paramedic I can only say this----------------
"Thank God that you are alive".

ALISON

It's ALIVE!!

Yeah, I know the feeling. I didn't think I was going to make it when I first came to rest. There was an odd ringing in my ears, I could hardly breathe and I thought I was dying.

When the witnesses opened my door and began talking to me, I had difficulty understanding what they were saying. More of a problem was the fact that even after I started to comprehend them, I couldn't actually get my mouth to say the things that were in my head. I was disorientated and scared silly, but after about ten minutes, I was beginning to feel a lot better.

The first thing Penny said when she arrived was exactly what you did. "Thank God you're alive."

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally grateful not to have perished

Take care ...

... and go back to the hospital and demand a second check if *any* problem persists.

A forty-ton lorry sideswiped me on the M25. The hospital x-rayed my neck, found a small problem, and sent me away.

Things didn't feel right, and I went to my GP, and he assured me that everything would settle down. They didn't, I saw him again, and again, and he assured me that things would settle down. They didn't. I carried on with my work, which involved frequent flights to Brussels, carring a 'luggable' computer on my shoulder (this was in the days they were so heavy you couldn't call them portable). Several months later, and the back pain hadn't gone away, despite all the GP's assurances. Still, I trusted him and the hospital. Doctors don't make mistakes do they? And then one day, I got out of bed, and my legs collapsed under me. I was in agony!

The hospital hadn't x-rayed my whole back, and had missed some damage in the lower back. I was laid up for about four months, and although mobile now, I have always to take care, because the damaged part of the spine hadn't healed right.

You have given your spine a very nasty jolt. If it is damaged, the problem may not become apparent until you put stress upon it (carrying the computer on one shoulder had put sideways stress on my spine). And the passage of time may make it difficult to claim damages. (All the solicitors I consulted warned that the passage of time would make it very difficult to win a case for damages.)

If any problems persist, go back, and ask them if there might be other damage they missed. I was too accepting, and my quality of life has suffered.

Thanks, Wyrm

I will make sure I'm vigilant. I already have tinnitus in my left ear that is quite persistent and annoying. I know that's to do with the whiplash, so I'm being extra careful by keeping a diary of my day-to-day stuff for insurance purposes.

Jessica
I don't just look it, I'm totally making sure this body isn't damaged