I have had a conversation with the person I harmed by my actions and we have reconciled. I'm returning to the "community" but provisionally. I will no longer offer advice, nor will I attempt to help, since I am obviously unqualified to do either. I apologize for any consternation I might have caused with my last blog entry, and to anyone who has been led in a wrong direction or confused by anything I have offered in the form of advice, in the past.
I was and am deeply affected by the results of my last error of judgement and I can only offer, by way of apology, my deeply felt NEED to help where and when I can. We all know what the road to hell is paved with, and I have added some asphalt to that road through my actions, of that there is no doubt.
To the person I harmed: I thank you, from my heart, for being the bigger person, and offering the branch of peace which you, so graciously extended to me. I humbly apologize, again, for the situation I caused and I am very thankful that you felt our friendship was worth more than any anger you felt. You may rest assured that it will be a cold day in hell before I EVER do such a thing again.
Well intentioned mistakes are still mistakes. I made one. I won't again.
Cathy
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fear of making mistakes
Hon, you seem to think the best way to avoid mistakes is to do nothing. Ironically, I think that's a mistake in itself. Shutting yourself off is a slow death, but a death nonetheless. And you avoid the fact that just because you offered advice or help, it would be the CHOICE of the person to take it or not. And even the best advice could be defeated by circumstances out of either parties control. Hugs.
"Let me succeed. If I cannot succeed let me be brave in the attempt." Pledge of the Special Olympics.
dorothycolleen
Cathy
I for one find your blog to be an example of what it means to be a part of the family here at Bigcloset Topshelf. I can only hope that your example that you and your friend set will encourage others
May Your Light Forever Shine
May Your Light Forever Shine
Giving advice / help
You may have been put off giving advice / help on that particular subject / topic, but don't impose a blanket ban on offering advice / help - someone may have a request for help / advice on a completely different aspect of life for which you've "been there, done that". As long as it's clear you're offering your own feelings on the subject, and the degree of authority that should be conferred on them, you'll probably be OK. Don't let one negative experience with offering help in one specific area put you off offering help in a completely different area.
There are 10 kinds of people in the world - those who understand binary and those who don't...
As the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body, then only left-handers are in their right mind!
/hug
For what it's worth, what you said to me the other day was exactly what I needed to hear. At the time, I hadn't slept in well over 24 hours, but I was physically incapable of it. I was, to be honest, having a panic attack, and your response set my mind at ease and allowed me to let go, lie down for a couple of hours, and get back to some semblance of reality.
I didn't thank you sooner because I was afraid I'd already missed my chance, so... For what it's worth, I'm one person who greatly appreciates your advice and your presence here, and I'm very glad to see you're back.
Thank you,
~Zoe
Well, I'm glad you're back!
I think Erin or one of the other volunteers purged all the comments to your last blog but I think I managed to read them all first, and drop one of my own.
I tried to offer the fact that to be human is to be flawed; we all are, and we can only encourage others. The folks who gravitate to this site do so because they feel a sense of community here and rightly so. You are important and I'm glad you're here!
Hugs
Carla Ann