I guess that by being one of the new kids on the block, I should introduce myself and give you some of my background.
I'm not really TG in the strict sense of the term. This IS where I've found some kindred spirits and wonderful stories, though. What I truly am is a bisexual male who only wishes he had been born a female so I could experience that side of me in it's totality. I would love to know what it feels like to be able to walk naturally in high heels, feel the cool breeze under a skirt and know what the different "center of balance" feels like. Of course, the thoughts of what women describe as the "full body" orgasm, not just the pressure in my groin is a powerful lure, as well. I guess my ideal would that I could switch genders, say on a monthly or bi-monthly period, and then make a decision as to which I prefer to finish my life as. I still think I would be bisexual in either gender.
If the sexual world were divided like a clock then, in general terms, 12 o'clock would be straight, 2 o'clock would be preferring opposite gender but would consider the same gender with the right person under the right circumstances, 4 o'clock (me right now) would prefer opposite gender but would love to make love to the same gender, as well. 6 o'clock would be the true bisexual who doesn't care one way or the other and has absolutely no preference as to gender, 8 o'clock is someone who prefers the same gender but would love to make love to the other gender, as well. 10 o'clock is the person who prefers the same gender but would consider the opposite gender if the person and the timing were right while our return to 12 o'clock from this side would be to strictly gay people. I could definitely see myself as a 4 o'clock person whether I were a male or a female.
Basically, I'm not a female stuck in a male body sort of TG. I'm a male who would actually want to try being a female and be given the option afterward. Is that a form of TG? I don't have a clue.
Anyone else have a clue? Ever run into this situation before? Oh, and yes, I do like dressing up but it's not for sexual gratification. It's to make myself feel feminine, even if I'm not.
Love and hugs,
Erica
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Welcome
We try not to judge who or what people are, after all if it's not hurting anyone else just be yourself. As for what you are, given the clock example you quote, I'm inclined to think 'revolving door' but in the nicest way.
Angharad
Angharad
Your Choice
As you pointed out there are different positions on the clock. I hope you find enough stories and assistance here to make you comfortable,
Joanne
"part-time girl"
There are a lot of stories of someone who becomes a "part-time girl", and spends time as both genders, so I would assume there are more than a few people who would describe themselves like you have. I like your image of a clock for orientation. Me, I identify myself as a mostly female person stuck in a male body, and mostly prefer to be with a woman, but would consider sleeping with a man under the right circumstances. So where would that fall on the clock?
"Treat everyone you meet as though they had a sign on them that said "Fragile, under construction"
dorothycolleen
The clock
My clock analogy is based on the person's feelings of self. If you are female in a male body, then you would be identified as female. By preferring women over men but with the caveat of "a man under the right circumstances", I should think you would fit at around the 10 o'clock position.
As I said about my particular case, I'm a male in a male body and would just enjoy being a female in a female body on occasion. Who knows? I might not want to go back! LOL
Anyway, the fact that I enjoy sex with men a lot, I don't fit at the earlier part of the clock face so I fit into the 4 o'clock (if not the 5 o'clock) position.
Erica
Welcome!
If you self-identify as male, why did you choose a female name here?
(I don't mean to sound accusatory, this is purely curiosity on my part.)
self-identity
I guess that being born male and growing up male makes me identify as a male. As to the female name, it is who I would like to be were the possibility to present itself.
I think I would like to be the "proper" gender for any particular partner. A gay man or straight woman can have me as a man, a straight man or lesbian can have me as a female. That would be the ultimate for me. Unfortunately, that's not possible. Thus I self-identify as male in certain situations and female in others. Whether I'm Eric or Erica depends on who I think the current role requires me to be.
Sometimes it's nice to have a man or woman curl up in my arms and feel comfortable and protected when I'm Eric. Sometimes I want to be the one comforted and protected and Erica comes out to play.
I didn't take the question as accusatory, Jennifer. I just hope this helps, in some way, to satisfy your curiosity. If not, we can go into other details that you feel might help. I've never found anyone here to be nasty, accusatory or in any way derogatory toward anyone else here. Had I found that, I would never have joined or shared my feelings.
Erica
Firstly welcome to BC (Big Closet.) Erica.
As you will have realised already, we in the TG community tend by and large, not to be judgemental. We've all got our own rows to hoe but were all working in the same field and we're all planting different crops but we all eat them.
We can at least chat to our friends in the same field and enjoy each other's company and share the same weather (good or bad,). In other words we share different lives in the same country.
You will no doubt find amongst us those who'm you deem closest to you and your issues, (That's if you even
think of them as issues.) and you will choose which stories you like.
I'll only wish you welcome again and enjoy the walk - ride- journey.
Love and hugs,
Beverly.
Growing old disgracefully.
Welcome
As there are many variations of TG you may be. Only you can decide that. As for me I knew that I should have been female since my preschool days.