Annette MacGregor
When you expect to transition - before your kids are old enough to get married... What does this do to the Wedding ceremony?
Why does this question plague me? (or should I say did)
I've a 23 year old daughter - that's been dating the same guy for almost six years now... They expect to get married "some day". He knows - and has met Annette (even gone out to dinner with me - numerous times).
In any event what's all this leading up to? Last night - in IM - my daughter told me that they'd been talking about their future wedding over the weekend. Apparently he brought it up... And, he said he was okay with me, being me in the service. (Oh, this was all couched in "if it happens" and such... Neither are willing to go out on the limb and actually say they're engaged. Wanted to clarify that... Though, it seems both assume that some day, they'll be married. Go figure how they plan to get from here to there without the steps in between...)
But, back to last night. My daughter told me "oh, by the way, I expect you to escort me down the isle - wearing a lovely gown."
Needless to say, I teared up a LITTLE bit. It was NOT easy reading to keep typing. (the person in the OTHER IM window had to be told - at least part - to understand why I was having trouble seeing what she typed. LOL Blew her away too.)
Yes, I was flying then. No, not anywhere near as much as when I got my drivers license with the correct gender marker, but still flying.
Of course, I came up with some (it felt like dozens) of potential problems (his family, the church, the pastors, etc...) but she said we'd cross those bridges when and if we come to them. She just wanted me to hear this... Nice "kid" huh... :-)
My wife's reaction? She said she wasn't surprised. LOL And, she has the easier job.
Otherwise, where am I? Moving slowly forward - getting a weekly hour of electrolysis... (The face can now go 2-3 days without shaving - and most folks can't see this! Getting there! The neck, is no where near this far along, sad to say. Other things? The weight loss is "STUCK". The cold weather has made it REALLY hard to get out and exercise... And in-side can be challenging too. *sighs* Still down almost 20% - from my peak about the time I came out to my wife... I need to lose a minimum of another 10% (from that starting point)...
Thank you for the dozen of you that got this far. I hope I didn't disappoint.
Thanks for listening (okay, reading).
Anne
Comments
re: RTM-11
Hi
I think this is so wonderful. Gives such hope to other people who have transitioned, or are thinking about doing so. Family can survive and in your case, adapt.
Karen
Nice family :)
Talk about accepting - not bad going if your daughter expects and encourages you to escort her down the aisle as yourself :)
As for indoor exercise, one cheeky tip I heard once - and I don't know if it would have any practical impact at all - was that if you live in a house, find excuses to traverse the stairs whenever possible :)
There are 10 kinds of people in the world - those who understand binary and those who don't...
As the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body, then only left-handers are in their right mind!
I am happy with and for you
Annette,
How wonderfull that your daughter and your wife are so understanding and accepting! Good for you! I wish you all the best on the road ahead of you.
Jessica
In my case
'When you expect to transition - before your kids are old enough to get married... What does this do to the Wedding ceremony?'
I transitioned when my kids were 8 & 6, a little young to get married. My son married three years ago and I'd met his girlfriend/fiancee several times, however, I wasn't invited to the wedding. They now have a 9 month old baby, my first grandchild and I'm the only grandparent not to have seen him. I won't say my son didn't have issues with me before, but since marriage, they have grown tenfold or more. I haven't seen him since before the wedding and not spoken to him on the phone very often. His wife is very controlling and possessive and I'd happily not see her again as we have nothing in common apart from my son.
My daughter and her partner by comparison I see regularly if infrequently and we speak every week. I am reassured that any marriage they have I will be invited, she is as hurt by her brother's actions as I am, as is my ex, but it doesn't seem to stop him.
They say if you really love someone to let them go and they'll come back to you. It hasn't happened yet and I do have doubts about it for the future.
I wish you better luck than I had, Annette.
Angharad
Angharad
good kid hon
you must have raised her right. i look forward to you posting pics of you at the wedding.
"Treat everyone you meet as though they had a sign on them that said "Fragile, under construction"
dorothycolleen