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I am facing the possibility of being homeless soon. My family is wanting to throw me out because my Unemployment has run out and I have yet to be able to find a job. Adding to that, I am being given a hard time for daring to have any friends and if they dare send me anything in the mail, my whole family acts like someone would have to be crazy to be friends with me. I am almost at the end of my rope with the whole situation. The first order of business for me when I do find a job is getting as far away from my meddlesome family as I can get and at this point I really don't care if I ever see them again. I just don't know what I can do. I doubt the homeless shelter would allow a transwoman to stay there. I just hope something changes really soon.
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I'm saddened
by your news and your family's attitude. All I'm a fraid I can do is keep my fingers crossed and hope you have a change of luck very soon.
Best wishes and hugs,
Angharad
Angharad
Homeless shelters
One never knows unless one asks, and there are churches and synagogues which run informal programs, mostly for their co-religionists. Ask around.
In states in which it is legal to discriminate against transgendered individuals, you might be able to find a lawyer to take the case pro bono, since it's specifically excluded under Federal disability law, so there are, I think, Constitutional issues with many State Constitutions, possibly even the US version. I'd look for the local Independent Living centre, the various GLBT support organisations, and whatnot. It's also possible to get a job as a live-in elder care or disability care attendant, although some states require a license. The requirements are usually not terribly onerous.
http://www.dredf.org/
http://www.tash.org/
http://www.virtualcil.net/cils/
http://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/
Please note that, if one is homeless, one has no particular barrier to going somewhere else, where discrimination against glbt individuals might be something less of a problem. The problem is usually that one tries to hang onto too much, and stays in situations in which it's difficult to thrive.
http://afsc.org/
Really fine people, as a general rule. I was once stranded in Cleveland with very bad immediate prospects, called them up and they found someone who offered me a place to stay until I was able to have money wired to me for a ticket back to civilisation.
There are tons and tons of wonderful people in the world, and the only real trouble is finding one when you really, really, need one.
Cheers,
Puddin'
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Cheers,
Puddin'
A tender heart is an asset to an editor: it helps us be ruthless in a tactful way.
--- The Chicago Manual of Style
In the Immortal Words of Bette Midler
What do you mean by a ticket "back to civilisation"?
There are plenty of us who live in "fly over land" who wouldn't live on either coast at gunpoint.
Angela Rasch (Jill M I)
Angela Rasch (Jill M I)
Oceans
I long ago decided that I would never live more than an hour's drive from the ocean (by which I mean the Pacific -- I've seen the Atlantic, and it's all very nice, but still -- Once you've tried Pac, you'll never go back), however nice the people I've met in "fly over land" were. I've worked in Kansas (too flat, and they made me eat too much beef), Alberta (too cold), Minnesota (Amazon Bookstore [the one amazon.com stole their name from] is great, and the Land-o-Lakes butter factory top was nice [I liked the Indian Maiden -- too, too apropos]), Texas (way too much Texas), Pennsylvania (Philadelphia was nice, but it was Philadelphia), Massachusetts (too Boston), Virginia (too conservative), Maryland (pretty license plate, and the only decent state flag), Ohio (too cold), Utah (too... hard to get used to people so self-centred that they called me a Gentile, and way too conservative), Washington (too wet, despite the north Pacific), California and Hawai'i (Now you're talking). I quite like both the latter, although Hawai'i is a bit insular. One has to travel back and forth.
Cheers,
Puddin'
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Cheers,
Puddin'
A tender heart is an asset to an editor: it helps us be ruthless in a tactful way.
--- The Chicago Manual of Style
Best of Wishes to you.
Puddintane already provided more detailed info than I would have, but do look around. Different states DO have different rules. Here in NJ, for example, the shelters couldn't legally exclude you.
IF you are "thrown out" take as much important things with you as you reasonably (important word) can... It's likely to be a long time before you can get anything else. *sighs* I don't like to have to advise that, but...
I'll cross my fingers and hope things work out for you, sooner rather than later.
Ann
Maybe Puddin has it right...
This might end up being an opportunity for you to wind up someplace better.
I wish I could help.
Abby
I'm really sorry to hear
I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. I wish there was something I could do. I hope things improve for you soon. Good luck!
SalessÂ
"But it is also tradition that times *must* and always do change, my friend." - Eddie Murphy, Coming To America
Lack of information.
Jenny.
You won't get much help from anybody unless you at least say what country you live in and a bunch of other stuff.
For example, I'm a Brit and I own houses. I have on occasion helped out TG or TV friends or friends of friends by providing a free roof and a bed temporarily while they get themselves together. I couldn't always do it because sometimes I didn't have an empty house hough I was occasionally able to offer serious, practical help. On a couple of occasions it forged deep abiding friendships, (And on a couple of occasions I was also let down but that's by the by.)
However, and I don't even know your name, (though I'm assuming it's Jen or Jenny,) I have absolutely no idea where you live, US, UK Canada or whereever, Including Oz. (This is a wordwide site.)
A bit more detail, without giving too much away for your own safety, might possibly help somebody out there to find a way to help.
Be practical and be brave.
Beverly Taff.
I Live In The U.S
I live in the U.S in Kentucky specifically. My name is Jennifer Campbell.