It has happened again, so maybe it's time to stop thinking that it is a coincidence. This is the second time in 2 weeks and it still gives me hope that I can pass.
Two weeks ago, while going to therapy, a woman came up to me and said "Excuse me ma'am, do you know where such and such is?" I thought that was cool, but as soon as I opened my mouth she apologized for calling me ma'am and said that the long hair through her. I didn't want to tell her that she was correct the first time, that the hair was right and the voice was wrong, because I really didn't think it would improve either of our lives.
Today was completely different, but the same. I went to fed-ex office to get some copies made. Placed the order, had a lengthy discussion with the service person about what I wanted. Just an every day interaction. However, when I came to pick up my order. He was "Make sure the order is to your liking, ma'am." Gives me hope, and was made even better by the fact that he didn't correct himself afterwards and that even though he heard my voice, he still labeled me so. I wanted to say, "Do you realize you called me ma'am?" I don't know if I wanted to correct him, or celebrate to the fact that yes, there may be hope for me yet.
Also, according to SuperCuts, I have medium length hair. When does it be considered long?
And one last thing. I have decided to try my hand at a transgender diet and workout plan? Would this be of interest to anyone? When I publish it, should I make the cover obscure so the purchaser doesn't have to worry about being discovered?
Comments
Celebrate
Celebrate the way you were addressed, and never corrct the person, unless it somehow concerns your safety or to prevent an VERY awkward situation.
The cover needs to be a tricky compromise. Enough to attract the targeted buyer, but obscure enough not to cause a ruckus.
"Be the Girl You Truly Want To Be"
"A TG Guide to Dieting and Exercising"
Unless someone understands the TG reference no harm no foul.
Rami
RAMI
K.T. Why not
accept that you pass as a woman?
May Your Light Forever Shine
Roll with it.
Happened to me once and I can pass like a freight train. I guess she just picked up a feminine vibe. It's good when it happens though. It validated every thing I have felt for all those years.
Upon my liar's chair
Full of broken thoughts
I cannot repair
The biggest source of pain.
Assuming that others will recognize you as a fraud is self defeating and self destructive. This is one of those "don't look back", "don't look at others" for your self aproval. I would strongly suggest that you work on your voice; if not pitch then word choices, inflection, and breathing. I don't think I ever get a response to this and I assume that others just think that their voice is their voice. That is not true. It took me a couple of years but it was worth it.
G
This.
People react as much to non-visual cues as to visual ones. The pitch of your voice is one thing but the way you use it can mark you out as female not male.
Like Gwen says, the words you choose and the inflections you use can make all the difference to how someone perceives you, even when your appearance may be at odds to that.
Sounds to me from the Fed-Ex experience that you are a good way there already.
Penny
transgender diet and workout plan
1] Yes I would be very interested,
2] My Ex and I had that argument for years when ever I was worried about passing in public. Her point was Michele you are a women full stop. You know that I know that just be that and everything will be OK. And it was. It will take a bit of time and practice but just BE in your head and the rest of your mannerisms and actions will follow, just like gymnastics your body follows your head. Then people will address you according to the Cues you are presenting.
Huggles
Michele
With those with open eyes the world reads like a book
Celebrate
I agree with the others. Celebrate! It's just an indicator that the outside is more in synch with the inside, your true self. :D
Keep it up, girl!
Mark <3