redman
over a period of many years i have learned that it is better to be a human being than a human doing. much energy is spent on doing things, doing better, going the extra mile and achieving all the goals set for one's self and by others. unfortunately, this, all to often, leaves one wondering why they don't feel enjoyment about what has been achieved. the old platitude, 'take the time to smell the flowers along the way,' comes to mind. what is the the point of going someplace if you don't enjoy the trip. we must all do something to earn a living, some of us are lucky enough to find a labor of love. some not so lucky, are stuck with a fricking job... just plain old work. i've experienced both. the truth is that if you are busy being a human being, it really doesn't matter. because of the abuse i experienced in my life, and the bullying, i spent a lot of time and energy on self pity and getting even. i was thirty years old before i began to understand the personal cost of resentment, and close to forty by the time i came to terms with it. today, no one has my permission to hurt me and most certainly no one gets to have free rent in my head. at this point in my life everything is my choice, and i revel in getting to make those choices, and be responsible for them. so, should i ever do you a favor, there are no strings, because i did it because i wanted to. all i can ask is when some one is kind and does you a good turn, pass it forward. being, especially being part of is the prize. redman