This Writing Thing

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It's strange one. Anyone that tries it and attempts to put feeling and emotion into it as opposed to stringing a few clichéd idealised fetishes together will I think get what I'm saying.

It's sort of akin to standing alone in an interrogation room facing that mirror that simply reflects you back at yourself… oh and of course you're naked.

On the other side of that two way mirror is everybody else looking in and commenting on your stance or general appearance or whether you seem nervous or cocky or your hair is a mess or… well anything at all that they choose to see.

Just a wee bit personal and perhaps confronting.

Now the only glimpse you get of all those people out there looking in are the comments; hits and votes tell you there's passing traffic but nothing else.

Now as you stand there naked waiting perhaps in vain for some word to say hey you're okay or please brush your hair or god when did you last shave? Where you ask, running your hands self-consciously over assorted places? See easy to not quite convey the meaning.

You may also pick at that ingrown hair and shrug… or burst into tears that someone tells you your outie's pathetic and for gods sake do something about that bikini line. And BRUSH your damn hair ya slovenly bitch. Should there be an apostrophe in there somewhere? What, where?

Think about that one eh. Just how many of us can stand in front of that mirror, never knowing how many will look in or what they'll say… or think. Then there's our own little demons whispering about, knobby knees or stray hairs or not quite being perfect.

Who amongst us is? Mirror mirror on the wall, just try to be fair to us all... oh, and gentle hmmm. Please.
Hey it's a thought.

Kristina

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Talk About Synchronicity

joannebarbarella's picture

I just PMed a certain lady complaining about lack of comments on my latest piece. Yes, here I am standing naked in front of my reflection and wondering what I have done wrong. I don't expect to be a megastar on this site like Alys or Erin or Angharad or A.A. but I get a respectable number of hits, yet virtually no votes or comments (please forgive me the couple of nice commentors. I love you for taking the trouble). I don't want to sound like a whinger but where is the encouragement?
One new contributor has posted a story "The Green Fairy" which I personally think is very good, but she posted a blog saying how glad she was to have found this place. I am the only respondent. I am ashamed of us. This place used to be so friendly. I remember I was bowled over by the welcome I got eighteen months ago. As Kristina says, let's all take a look in that mirror,
Joanne

The Closer

When you go into that interrogation room, you should always have a good attorney at your side. It's often unwitting, self-damning testimony that traps the only partially innocent criminal in the hands of a Brenda wannabe.

There isn't a writer on BC who is good enough not to be easily criticized -- uhmmm -- there isn't a writer in existence in our current world our in a literary past who is "good enough" not to be criticized. I'm cynical enough to know I could gleefully edit Twain's work in such a way as to make it "so much better." Last night my eighteen-year old daughter, in a conversation with me, attacked Milton as the most sexist writer she's ever read. She said his writing is filled with description that does nothing but shout, "Look at me. Boy, can I write!" And, she's right. Milton loves adverbs abd adjectives and ignores his female characters even so far as to exclude them from dialogue in scenes where they should be active participants. And yet, how many of us could tie Milton's shoes?

The BC reader wants to be entertained -- and often to find escape. That is their right. The reader wants the story to flow without too much drag in the way of superfluous adverbs, adjectives, and trips down the oceanside highway to admire the ships on the horizon, in a story about anything but ships. The reader expects the spelling and construction to be such that they can read the story without being jarred out of their suspended disbelief, or being compelled to guess at the author's intent (too much).

The reader expects a hook that cannot be ignored to glide them into a trancelike enjoyment of the story. She wants a series of conflicts that move the story along with adequate tension to make her want to continue reading, and an ending that rises gracefully out of what has been revealed to her.

All of this the TG reader wants for free . . . from amatuer writers who might be writing simply because they need to exorcise a personal demon. Often the writer on BC couldn't care less about the reader. Writers struggle within their writing to find a self-identity to share with the redaer . . . an identity that has eluded them to that point and probably will also confound the reader. An inability to identify what irks you shouldn't and doesn't stop the TG author from trying. . .and often leaves the BC reader hanging and less than pleased with the story.

The majority of us have tragic tales to tell about the guilt and shame our TG lifestyle has included. Many of us are pained deeply by what can't possibly be, but must. We are tormented by who we are and struggle mightily within a society that for a large part demands that we must be who THEY want us to be. Whereas the average person might be able to tell that unseen critic on the other side of the one-way mirror to stuff their comments, whereas the average person might be able to note lack of support for their story from the only community they feel confortable in, we TG authors are NOT average. Most of us are hanging by gossamer threads, pinatas fashioned from fine porcelain, ready to be reduced to dust by a almost unfelt breeze.

My gentle Kristina -- before you go naked before the maddening crowd, a throng that is hardly bucolic, you must first stop and ask a trusted friend (maybe an editor) if you should perhaps stand with a little less frontal exposure and more of a profile to show off your elegant nose. On your way into that chamber of "whores" you should fortify your thoughts with the knowledge that absolutely dreadful stories are currently receiving a huge amount of votes, while interesting, provocative stories that deal with themes that have meaning to each of us, are going unlauded.

Or -- you can simply say "to hell with it" and refuse to play the inane game any longer. In that case, when you withdraw your stories and depart into the night be sure to follow Sephrena's mandates so that those votes and comments that brutally shoved you away can be preserved.. .because that makes so mush sense that it isn't even debatable.

Angela Rasch (Jill M I)

Angela Rasch (Jill M I)

Right On

littlerocksilver's picture

I am not going to try in my inept way to repeat what the previous commenters said. They have said it so well. I am reminded of Michael J. Fox in 'The American President' saying the reporters were going to have to look up how to spell 'erudite'. Well said everyone. :) Portia

Portia

I like your stories...I really do...

Truth be told, I tend more to read and then savour stories. The best ones I read and re-read, just like visiting with old friends. You have written one of my favourites - Blues for C and C. I've probably read it a dozen times. But you wouldn't have any way to know that, unless I told you. So...'told ya'

Consider your clientelle

People come to BC and read stories for free. Do you think that they feel social responsibility? Some of us are too poor to buy a book, some of use could easily afford it but read these stories because they are free, and push buttons not readily touchable in main stream media.

Very few readers have ever picked up on what I try to say in my stories, or if they did most did not say so. Are they too dull to do so or am I simply not saying it properly?

I know that when I write, I sometimes feel much emotional release. And, much to my own disappointment, I don't feel motivated to use the formula. I want to write what I wish to because it makes me happy.

A Different Take

I've never viewed my writing in the manner described here. Rather, I have always looked upon as my child. Like a child, I gave birth to my stories, nurturing it and caring for it until it's ready to face the world. And like a child, my stories grow and mature, starting with a tentative, almost helpless state, otherwise known as the beginning, and slowly growing into a fully formed, healthy child that can stand on its on. At some point, and it always happens somewhere between pages 50 and 100, the story takes off on its own hook, much like a teenage who has emerged out from under the watchful eye of its parent in an effort to take on the world. Eventually, when the end of the story is reached, it leaves me to face the world on its own. If it stands on its own two feet and accomplishes great things, I am proud. If someone attacks my baby, I am annoyed.

Having gone through the experience of raising three children, all of whom are out on their own now, this view of writing has, for me, a special meaning. In the end, each writer finds a way to relate to their works. Regardless of how they do, remember; no parent ever willingly admits in public that they have an ugly baby. Even the ugliest baby has a special place in its mother's heart.

So when you comment on a story you find to be ugly, please do try to temper your criticism. Remember, as far as the writer is concerned, it's not their words your attacking. It's their heart.

Nancy Cole


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"You may be what you resolve to be."

T.J. Jackson

Nancy Cole, Very Well Said! I especially loved this line...

"...So when you comment on a story you find to be ugly, please do try to temper your criticism. Remember, as far as the writer is concerned, it's not their words your attacking. It's their heart."

Great stuff Nancy!
Angel
"Be Your-Self, So Easy to Say, So Hard to Live!"

"Be Your-Self, So Easy to Say, So Hard to Live!"

Desmond something

kristina l s's picture

Wasn't it? The Naked Ape? It's funny, I had no intention of blogging anything as I haven't written in months, or commented either really. I did on Kate's blog some days back and then I read TD's and wanted to, but it disappeared. So... still the basic feeling of writing is me even if the inspiration for doing this wasn't. I do get the child idea and agree if I feel it more related to some of the people rather than the whole. I am not ... away, though there is disaffection and dislocation partly due to the feeling here and largely due to life and its messiness and someone close to me. Nor was I trawling for comments or seeking praise, though thanks Petra, glad you like that one.

As I've said before I have to feel it to make it live and if I can't... so turning profile if a little less confronting is not an option, I can only do it one way, even if the tone may shift some now and then. I do hope to get past this or through it or whatever and have something for you to look at Jill and then I'll stand in front of that mirror again. Yet I do wonder how long that can continue before self consciousness beats me. The magic number of 3000 has been mentioned a few times and hey, one of mine is not far short now, imagine that. Yet in another sense I shrug and say, so? I can't really do cute and sweet, not sure I could to save my life. I tend to kneel in the grit a little, swear a bit and though the glass might often be half full it's seldom more, but surprises can and do happen.

Oh and I do thank a friend for the offer of a robe in case it got chilly. And the offer of a chat if needed, it does mean something. As ever I doubt I've said enough in response or even initially. It's not about popularity as such, just thoughtful appreciation and consideration. I like the idea of a BC community but am increasingly wondering at its reality. Disparate and insular and self centred seems to be taking over. As I've said before not everything will be everyones, how could it be, but do please be accepting of that.

Oh and thank you Erin for trying to hold onto the runaway bull as the other big two inactivity causes overload and overflow. For those that normally sneer yet come because, well there's not many other choices with the capacity and catalogue, don't piss on the floor hmmm, it's impolite.

Kristina

Desmond Morris.

He is (was, perhaps?) a British anthropologist who used to appear on BBC TV quite a lot a long time ago.

Remember - over 99% of the world's population has more than the average number of legs.

Geoff