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As a man who loves to wear dresses and skirts. I would love to be able to wear dresses and skirts when at home. My family has accepted the night gowns (that my wife suggested that I try) I have been wearing for the past couple years. But now I want more and don't know how to accomplish this feat. I don't want to be a woman just like to wear the clothes. I wish it were socially acceptable to the public.
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Hit a couple of Arabic/Muslim
Hit a couple of Arabic/Muslim clothing stores. The men's clothing is pretty darned close to women's clothing, but is different enough that people aren't going to immediately think transvestite.
Frankly, my only complaint about men wearing women's clothing is the simple fact that because it's designed for the wrong body shape, it looks wrong. That's it. I'd love to see a clothing manufacturer make similar colourful clothing for men. I probably wouldn't wear it, but I like the idea of giving people better choices for when they're not working. (I'd get a utilikilt, but they are excessively expensive. I'm more a naturist at heart. I don't see a point to clothes unless you need them.)
I'll get a life when it's proven and substantiated to be better than what I'm currently experiencing.
If the family accepts nightgowns
Get yourself a nondescript women's bathrobe. (I have a white one, complete with the inner tie that requires it to be tied with the right side over the left.) Make sure it's long enough to cover the nightgown. Wear that for a while. What with winter coming, you should be able to lounge around the house with that. You might also see about getting you and your wife matching/complimentary lounge wear for Christmas, like something you'd find on the Woman Within website.
Hugs
Patricia
Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
Semper in femineo gerunt
Ich bin eine Mann
you
Could always go for the Baltic layered look - pretty shapeless garments but definitely feminine. Very flowy without the structure that can make female cut stuff look 'odd'.
Madeline Anafrid Bell
Try...
Try kilts, or skirts or dresses designed for men. They exist.
-- Daphne Xu (a page of contents)
Try androgenous clothing
Body shape makes a lot of difference in what kind of clothes one wears and looks acceptable. Men and women wear jumpsuits. Skirt without being a skirt? Culottes would be it. Strongly suggest finding a Second Time Around store or Salvation Army store to do first exploration on spending money for clothes and figuring out what may or may not be acceptable in your part of the world. Forty dollars for a women's six hundred dollar three piece dress suit isn't that much of a hurdle for most. Many find the mind can accept wearing out in public, high end pants and jacket designed for a woman is enough emotional comfort. The matching skirt is a plus for those not so outed situations, home, lunch at the park, road trip, etc. Each person is unique unto themselves and despite what society tries to tell everyone, there is not a one size fits all situations.
"IF" one goes second hand shopping, go to the upscale areas of the city. It is where the high end clothes are usually located. Sometimes never worn and other times worn only once before discarded. If the right store it will be priced at a tenth of the original cost.
Please, be prepared emotionally for serious slurs or even nice compliments and do not let your own emotions get out of control. If legal carry pepper spray or other protection. DO NOT carry protection if you don't know what to do. It could be used against you.
Self defense classes are in order if you aren't already informed.
The gun on my hip or in my purse isn't there to hurt anyone. It is there to stop the problems before they start. And stop the problems if they do start. And yes, I know how to use them and it is very legal. Stay safe, stay legal.
always,
Barb
Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl
Be very careful.
Keep careful track of your hands. I have posed a question like this for firearm legal-carry states. If I got in a dispute or argument with someone (perhaps someone I view as a gun nut), and he (or she) moves his hands suggesting (in my view) reaching for a firearm, am I justified in kicking him/her? Front-sidekick, roundhouse kick, and punches in rapid sequence?
-- Daphne Xu (a page of contents)
I believe that here, for non
I believe that here, for non-cops, just reaching for a supposed firearm isn't enough. You have to _see_ the firearm, or at least be able to claim that they threatened you. Otherwise, you're just guilty of battery.
I'll get a life when it's proven and substantiated to be better than what I'm currently experiencing.