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We write our stories and our heroines are unbelievable beauties, our heroes are unbelievably masculine and handsome. Then we look in the mirror and pretend we are the heroine or hero if only for a few minutes. Many girls forget or don't think about what it takes to be that ravishing beauty. Ladies, it takes time, learning, and skill. I have met very few women in this life who rose out of bed in the morning and looked like a beauty queen contender.
Did you forget to turn off the guy brain when you turned into the girl? Guys get out of bed, scratch their dangles, pat down their hair, and shave if they didn't do it before bed. It's a guy trait. He isn't trying out for the Cowboy Cheerleaders nor Miss America. I have met women who take most of an hour out of each day to become that drop dead gorgeous brunet, blonde, or... Some take more and some take less but the bottom line is makeup can make all the difference and if you want it bad enough learn the tricks.
How ordinary women can be transformed into cover girls with a touch of clever make-up (and a little help from the airbrush)
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2458623/Most-amazi...
Makeup is an extremely powerful tool that can make wonders.
http://www.topdreamer.com/20-unbelievable-makeup-transformat...
Every woman out there is familiar with the basics of makeup: a little eye shadow here, a little touch of lipstick, etc. But the possibilities of just how much you can change your look through makeup (provided you know what you’re doing) are absolutely staggering. You can do just about anything with makeup these days. It's practically sorcery.
Stop dreaming for the magic faery to came and change you into a beautiful woman. She's already there at the tip of your fingers waiting on you to command her.
all my love to all you boys and girls who accept yourself and others no matter if they or you fit the pattern society laid out or not
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I think I get what you mean
Stereotypes are bullshit, exactly :D There are plenty of cis women who know nothing of make up and who are messy and don't use make up at all. There are cis women who hate make up. It doesn't matter though if a Cis woman did it or not, the point is, does it make YOU happy. If it makes you happy it doesn't matter if it's masculine or feminine. What matters is are you happy with yourself and how you are as a woman :D
I know who I am, I am me, and I like me ^^
Transgender, Gamer, Little, Princess, Therian and proud :D
Makes a difference
I am just too damn lazy to do it though.
I don't get hit upon by men consequently though when 'unmade'. But I have gotten lots of looks when I do though and it makes one cynical that one can go from invisible to visible with the stroke of a makeup brush.
Ironically, even very light makeup is all I need. Even day makeup is sufficient for evening for me.
I agree with the sentiment. Do whatever is comfortable.
I've been fortunate
Yes, it does take an hour or so to get my face on and get dressed three times. And yes, when I look in the mirror I so want to see a babe.
I still say that the number one thing that will spoil your presentation is VOICE. My voice was never really low and then I spent about $600 on a speech pathologist. It took me a couple years to put into practice all that she taught me because it is more than simple pitch. I hate to be snippy, a cd or a Youtube video will not do it. Also become familiar with feminine speech patterns, and vocabulary.
Some people say they can't change their voice. Don't give up.
voice or more correctly sound
The difference in a woman or a man speaking is more than key or pitch. Usually a woman speaks in a lilting voice as her pitch rises and falls in a sing song fashion. A man raises or lowers the volume as he speaks. Some really sexy voices of women were from women with a deep almost masculine voice
Paula Prentiss
Lauren Bacall
Suzanne Pleshette
I've met a few TG women who did it perfectly when they lowered their voice an octave and went to the lilt of rising falling pitch. If I hadn't known I would have bet they were GG pitching sex ads.
Keep in mind every thing that works for another might not be your way of bringing it all together. Voice is like fashion, one rule doesn't work for all.
More than anything else, find your happiness and understand happiness is a state of mind. There are millionaires, beautiful women, and handsome men who aren't happy. Becoming who your mind tells you who you are is never going to bring you happiness until you accept yourself and STOP trying to please everyone else. There are some out there who get great pleasure in the misery of others. Humans are the only creatures on earth who do this. As long as you let them control your mind and your self worth, you will NEVER find your own piece of mind.
Love yourself. There is no sin in that like some preachers or self righteous souls try and claim. Pride in one's self is NOT a sin if it is for the right reasons. (do not get me up on my theology soap box) Boy, girl, or anywhere in between, God loves you and so do I. This life is fleeting. Grab it, embrace it, and enjoy it, whatever it takes.
Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl
As comforting as this may be
Those women are of course exceptions to the rule. Having spent three years in a school chorus in my former gender I know what the typical female voices are like. A typical 1 sigma probability female voice does not sound like those actresses. There is a reason most women speak in a certain pattern and pitch.
I speak in a very unexceptional contralto voice, though not a mezzo-soprano (most women), I still blend in fine. There is no shame in sounding like those actresses of course but I cannot agree that it is a 'fashion' but a tendency that bridges the language a women speaks and so forth. Consequently the 'typical' voice is the gold standard, IF POSSIBLE, to shoot for.
Overall presentation matters of course. The sense of femininity is a synergy of things but a voice deeper than a certain pitch (basso profundo) would not do. The Talullah Bankheads of the world are definitely exotic but hardly the norm.
I've been working on my voice for two years,
I'm not there yet, but a lot better than I was.
Makeup is my next big project.
It will get there
A comfortable long term voice takes time to adapt especially if one tries to raise the basic pitch of the voice a bit also.
It takes time for all those muscles to default to a new arrangement so that speaking becomes instinctual again.
I've given up on makeup...
I'm liable only to wear makeup when going to a party, or to my support-group meeting (you really get judged on appearance there, believe me). Unfortunately, despite having been full-time since 1998, I have yet to master makeup. But then, I have little reason to wear it. Few of the cis women I know wear any--Appleton, Wisconsin is a very casual community. I've seen people in upscale restaurants wearing clothes better suited to a fast-food joint.
Applying makeup is especially hard for a cerebral-palsied transwoman, or for CP women in general. The comedian Geri Jewell once had this to say about being a woman with CP: "I tried to pluck my eyebrows and I ended up piercing my ears."
There's also the unpleasant fact that I have some flaws no amount of makeup can fix, like acne scars. If there's a product that can cover that, lead me to it.
I might be in the minority here, but I think pitching the voice higher, even if only a little bit, is vital to being accepted as female. Sure, Bea Arthur and Suzanne Pleshette had deep voices, but I've heard plenty of transwomen whose voices are too deep to be read as anything but male. Prior to 2012, my own voice was rather low (if I can find it I'll link to an old podcast I did back in 2008--judge for yourselves). Even though I tried inflecting my voice in a female manner, I still came across as male. Once I raised the pitch, it helped not only my passability, but my self-image. It was easier to think of myself as female when I sounded that way.
Livin' A Ragtime Life,
Rachel
I went to beauty school...
And as amazing as makeup CAN be when it comes to appearance, there's only so much it can do to feminize certain features. For example, if your jawline is straight up square, the best you can hope for contouring to do will be a slightly rounded square jaw. It's still square. Combined with other features it could still leave you being read as a male. Heavy brow lines are another. Even if you pluck your eyebrows nice and thin and high with a perfect feminine arch, if the bone behind it is especially heavy, there's simply no eye makeup in the world that can completely mask that. Again, you can slightly soften it, but making the feature disappear is just not happening.
Other features aren't so bad. Cheeks are easy to contour.
Another thing is beard shadow. Most of us can't even afford to get permanently rid of our beards. And for some of us, it's heavy enough that only some VERY expensive, and EXTRA heavy makeup will do, if we're extremely pale in complexion with extremely dark hair. My complexion comes from my northern European ancestry, my hair color and texture comes from my Native ancestry, while my hair growth pattern also comes from my northern European. This is a potent mix when it comes to having hair really stand out. It could be worse, though, if I had African hair.
Back to brows, it becomes even harder if you have a thyroid problem causing sparse brow growth. You can't get a feminine brow, you simply don't have enough brow in any one line. I've tried and I've tried, but short of just waxing the entirety of what I have off and painting on a fake brow (which is obviously fake btw) I can't get a good looking brow. If I could ever get my fringe to grow I could take care of the problem by simply hiding my lack of a good brow behind a thick bang. But that's the only really good solution. I know that works because I've worn a handmade wig from real hair, with such a bang, and it was the best I've ever looked. Sadly such wigs do not last forever, even with very good care, and it eventually had to go in the trash.
Makeup IS amazing... I'm not trying to deny that completely. But it's not as easy a fix for everyone as it is for some. I'm not as bad off as some, I can get a very good look... the cost is just such that I could either choose to look good, or get my 'mones. Not both. I prefer the 'mones.
Abigail Drew.