Howard Jacobson is a famed British author .... quoting from an article in the Telegraph 20/1/24:

'Complaints about realism often dog him.
He had to fight to keep a character in his last novel, Live a ­Little: a 90-year-old man who has never had a relationship, being ­crippled by shame at having been caught trying on his mother’s underwear as a boy. Jacobson’s publisher found this implausible. “Then I asked a group of Jenny’s psychologist colleagues if this was likely, and they all said ‘Of course, it’d ruin your life, no question’.”

..... from a self-selecting audience it will be difficult to get a generally valid answer ....'Is this what always / often / sometimes / rarely happens ...
I ask the question. I know being caught had some effect but for me now at 70, the memory fades and I can barely answer.