Christmas.
Christmas has always been a goodish time for me, decent ones as a kid, quiet, riotous or drunken ones as an adult. I like the time of year. Not the stress, the crowds or the harrying but the festiveness leading into the turning of the year.
This last year I have been climbing out of a deep pit (life, the universe and other things) back into living, and it is good’ish.
Plans for the future are being made, small ones and big target (but achievable) set.
So optimistic, so why the blog, well I have a friend, who was a Christmas Eve birth, and every year we get this rigmarole that her birthday comes first because she always says she felt left as a child as it rolled into Christmas. Fair enough and possibly true. But still doing it at 56 is starting to grate.
And she wants an afternoon Birthday Tea. And instead of just shrugging and getting on with it, this year I am bucking. You know what, I want to be festive silly for once. And then I feel guilty and…..
Trouble is I know if I say that, she will get affronted and huffy for a while.
But this year I just want a quiet ‘ME’ Christmas, me and the 2 cats, a few treats, a new book, a warm room, some silly or soppy films (Muppets Christmas Carol et al) and just wallow as I remember them in the past and look forwards to them in the future.
Thank you for reading, this is a kind of therapy, trying to explain it in words.
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My first Christmas
Thank you for sharing with us. I would love to attend a Tea Party on Christmas Eve. I would even bring my 'Christmas Barbie' that a dear friend gave me a few months ago to celebrate my transition and first birthday. Thanksgiving was a tough one for me, similar to Emma's recent story 'Parables'. And I imagine Christmas will be similar, but I'm looking forward to starting new traditions. Hang in there sis, you're amongst friends here. :DD
DeeDee
"Put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others"
... so say the airlines.
"Can't pour from an empty cup" say a lot of people.
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"doing it at 56 is starting to grate" - Then you certainly won't enjoy it, she will certainly "sense something wrong", probably crash her mood ... and there is Ick! all around.
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Yeah, Care of Self, "versus" friends, family, 'the World' can (all too often) be a tough call.
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Be honest about you needing Your Time.
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You have almost 3+ weeks to plan.
"Christ-Mass" co-opted December/Winter Solstice celebrations, so there's a date.
What might work for the two of you for New Years Eve Day or Evening, or NY's Day?
There is 'Old Christmas', somewhere about Jan 6th (?).
Might any of the these dates work for the two of you? Then you have your Self-time for Christmas, friend is not neglected or forgotten, and you have a nice Tea somewhen else.
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Notes:
I stayed home, and mostly off the net (and even no radio) this recent Thanks-Living, using the day to "recharge my own batteries".
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One time when I was suddenly unemployed, a very good friend performed a chanoyu for me, a https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_tea_ceremony.
Precious memory!
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And my Solstice lights are up and on ... with a new string that I bought for https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diwali.
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So many traditions, so many celebrations. Hope you & your friend find something meaningful.
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Good Luck!