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So yesterday my new bed frame arrived, and with a little help from mom I was able to get it together, and throw the old frame out.
Not a difficult task perhaps, but considering my lack of stamina, my wonky leg, and my even more wonky brain, I feel like it counts as a reasonable adulting accomplishment
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Seeing beyond.
Kinda hand for me to say this, as I need to listen to myself.
I've been really despondent seeing how much my life has changed since I had brain surgery. I can't do so many things I used to do.
Where do my strengths lie now? I can't drive like I used to, and I can't lift and carry things, but I can still do other things. I may be slow at them, but taking them one step at a time really does work.
No matter what, I can help others, even if it's being a receptive ear to listen when they need to talk, or a shoulder to cry on, when that's needed.
Remember, you've always got adulting you can do. It may not be what you think it "should" be, but someone else will look at it completely differently.
Hugs!
Rosemary
"Should be able" can be deadly. "Used to be able" is worse.
My wife (gone almost 11 years) suffered from MS, the last 9 years bedridden. She would get so frustrated with those 2 phrases. I kept telling her a person can only do the best they can do under their present circumstances. Even God could expect no more of us so why do we beat ourselves up?
I learned from her plight because I fight myself from doing it. I'll turn 70 in a few weeks, have both knees replaced (21 years and 6 years), had back surgery (7 years), and a sextuple bypass (6 years). So what I'm able to do now is a lot different than what I was capable of doing 30 years ago. It's difficult to accept reality, but not doing so will tear you apart. That's not saying don't try, just know and acknowledge your limitations. You'll never be happy much less contented until you do.
Boys will be girls... if they're lucky!
Jennifer Sue
I like seeing people ...
... sharing their achievements. The person doing it gets a feel-good from doing it, and we get a feel-good from watching our people being happy about it.
Even more so, when distance, or the current plague, keeps us all from "going down to the pub" and hoisting you a toast.
"Shared joy is doubled, shared pain is halved."
(Lotsa people have said the above, I read it first from science fiction author Spider Robinson.)
Do the Adulting When There is no other Choice
It's good to celebrate these things. I'm glad you took the time to share this note. Congratulations. I'm sure the bed will give you years of faithful service.
I have this dark fantasy about starting a competitive flat pack furniture assembly league. Teams would each be given identical boxes from IKEA then judged on completion, accuracy, and neatness of the final work space. Negative points for left over parts or failure of the functionality test.
Peace
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Crash