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I went to my uncle's visitation tonight. Most of my family already knew about me and it wasn't as big an issue as I thought. Of course, there were some who avoided me, but that was no surprise. My aunt Susan paid me the greatest compliment I have ever had. She told me that she loved me even more because I am living the truth in my life and not shying away from telling the truth no matter what. Those words meant so much to me and I vowed to myself and to others that I will always live my truth, because for so many years, I couldn't out of fear for what others would think! Never again! I feel for my cousins having to face tomorrow, because that's when it will really hit home the hardest. The last goodbye at least here on Earth and the solemn ritual of the Military ceremony with the gun salute, playing of "Taps" and presentation of the flag. I have been through one of those already with my grandpa and it was pretty jarring when the shots ring out and the sound of "Taps"playing out over the cemetery. Anyway, Thanks for the words of support.
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True to your Spirit
RAMI
It's great that most of your fears were unfounded. You were able to be at the visitation, both for your uncle, your cousins and yourself. Additionally, you received the support from an aunt that allows you to justify your actions.
Rami
RAMI
Uncle's Visitation
I'm glad you were brave enough to go. And as yourself.
I'm glad things went (mostly) well. And even the ones who avoided you may come around. And that's better than being attacked (verbally or otherwise).
Good on Aunt Susan.
Lisa
Good for you
Jen you did the right thing!! The only way to normalize your famlies view of you is to expose them to the real you!!
Your Aunt sounds like a grand lady!! My experience was not so good. My wife of 34 years passed away 3 years ago.
At the funeral I sat in the front on the right and her entire family sat on the left. Not one of them talked to me
before, during or after ther service!! I just sat there quietly crying for my lost spouse!! We had not lived
together for 10 years , but were still married and close friends!! That hurt, but my sons were great they had not
been close before then. They had me over for dinner the next day and we have been very close since then. My oldest
son told me he had wanted to talk to me before this but had been ashamed it had taken him so long. This gave him
the opportunity to renew or relationship. So some good did come from a sad time!!