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I saw this on AOL
Mom Defends Son's 'Daphne' Halloween Costume
The kid is five and looks cute. He wanted to have fun, and the costume is over the top.
The reaction is idiotic. Most of the comments to the story are supportive
Here is the link.
http://www.parentdish.com/2010/11/08/mom-defends-sons-daphne...
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It sounds to me
like the negative responses are what we call in the UK extreme political correctness. This is the same thinking that says there are no losers in a race; all are winners. A fine way to equip children for life - I don't think.
I suppose that the views of the parents will devolve to the children. This is presumably how tribal warfare is perpetuated.
S.
Susan??
I coached a LOT of youth sports teams, also officiated football and basketball. The lessons of sports aren't totally dependent on winning and losing, they are dependent on wanting to win and making the effort, that desire should be nurtured.
I disagree in that all participants aren't winners . . . because playing is definitely the better alternative to NOT playing.
I once was part of a three person committee who ran a 800 player elementary student youth basketball league. We started the scores over 0 - 0 every quarter. There would be times when kids would lose three quarters 15 - 0, 16 - 4 and 10 - 6 and then would somehow win the last quarter 8-7. Instead of leaving the gymnasium Instead of leaving the gym talking about how they lost 48 - 18 they would leave talking about how they won that one quarter. The first group of kids that went through our program went on to play at three separate high schools. When those boys were seniors they placed first, second, and third in the state high school tournament. Truth is stranger than fiction. I would never try to write a story that made such an assertion, but I swear it is the truth.
During those years I would referee from 8:00 in the morning until 2:00 in the afternoon. I would often stop the game and gather the kids to explain something about the game that would help them. It was fun. Often a child would miss the entire basket on their first freethrow. I swear again -- I would walk up next to them with the ball and talk softly to them while bouncing the ball to get them into the basketball rhythm. At least half the time they would swish their second shot. Again, it was fun.
Angela Rasch (Jill M I)
Angela Rasch (Jill M I)
Good point about playing
With obesity so rampant, playing is a good thing and needs to be encouraged.
But I think the idea is the notion that no child can be better or worse than any other. This is the kind of thing that awards all participants a ribbon exactly the same as everybody else's ribbon. No mention of winning or losing, no different colors, no first, second, or third places.
The good thing about competition is that it inspires everybody to acheive their best. There is a tangible goal. Take away that goal and what reason do they have to try? Those kids that won one set out of four, they feel good precisely because they won one of the four. But what if that didn't matter? What if their effort isn't recognized? Why try?
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Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until they speak.
I went outside once. The graphics weren' that great.