Twenty One years and I'm still trying to figure it out

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It was this day in 1989 that the wife and I got married. We have two wedding anniversaries in fact. Today is the civil one, our church wedding took place on June 17th of the same year. This isn't an unusual practice among Filipinos.

I love my wife but I sometimes say I'm still trying to figure her out. Like now, she just left for a wedding. Her hairdresser is getting married. So what is she bringing? Sliced watermelon. Dear wife did say that was what the bride was asking for her to bring.

If DW was given equal time, she'd say 'Why don't you get paid to write those stories?' Well she does say that already. I love her.

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Congratulations

Andrea Lena's picture

We just celebrated #25 on Tuesday. Ours is a marriage of persistence and endurance; I persist and she endures! Coincidentally, I'm eating sliced watermelon right now, which I expect means absolutely nothing. All my best to you and her this beautiful day.

She was born for all the wrong reasons but grew up for all the right ones.
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Cool!

We just celebrated our 21st back in March and I still haven't figured him out any better than I had 21 years ago. I'm pretty sure he's equally mystified, and that's kinda cool!

Happy Anniversary number 1!
I wonder, do yawl celebrate both?

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Yes

We do celebrate both. Dear Wife and I went to dinner and a movie last night for our civil wedding anniversary. Today we went to mass and she went to the wedding I mentioned. Other than that its been quiet but nice.

"Writing is like walking in a deserted street. Out of the dust in the street you make a mud pie."- John le Carre

Daniel, author of maid, whore, bimbo, and sissy free TG fiction since 2000

What the world needs is more geniuses with humility; there are so few of us left.- Oscar Levant

Congratulations. 21 years is

Congratulations. 21 years is an achievement that you should be proud of. But as to learning to understand your spouse... I'm still mystified after 34 years!

Some days you're the pigeon, some days you're the statue

It's a Filipino thing

Watermelon? At least that was easy. The hairdresser could have asked for lumpia, not the shanghai kind but the big ones. My wife asks the same thing, why don't you make some money from this, yes she's Filipino, but born here. My last wife was too, but this one is a coconut, white on the inside but brown on the outside. We've been married twenty-six years and will have our twenty-seventh aniversary next month. Congratulations on your anniversary but we only celebrate one, but knowing Filipinos any excuse for a party is fair game, Arecee

Lucky You !

I really envy, but not in a negative way, people who manage to stay married for so long. I sort of made it, just, with my first spouse. Then followed the first set of lonely years, wandering from land to land as my employers sent me hither and thither and yon to work for them. Then I met my second spouse. It was love at first sight, though we understood hardly a word of eachothers' language. We had seven fantastic years together, despite the obstacles - I had to learn the language of my new life-partner and family, and find out how to fit into a culture and an economic system very new to me.

My experiences have been that, some people at least, change so much over the years that both parties end up too different from the ones that were attracted to each other back at the beginning. It is nobody's fault, it just is so.
Eventually we spent all our time arguimg about nothing important and separated.

Funny thing is, I think both my former partners are more friendly with me now than they were back then.

Now, well into my second series of lonely years, I just wonder how other people can do it - stay together for ever.
I wish I could do that too.

Briar

Briar

21 years, Nice start

Patricia Marie Allen's picture

Congratulations. 21 years is a nice start. When my wife and I reached that point I used to joke that we should see a marriage consular because these days marriages aren't supposed to last that long.

Well, we've really blown it now, it'll be 43 years come August. Hang in there, if we made it, you can too.

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Hugs
Patricia

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