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My partner, Laura, of 33 years just died.
One moment she was struggling with a bad chest congestion and next moment her heart stopped and she stopped breathing.
I was there when it happened. As soon I realized she had stopped breathing I called 911. The EMTs were there soon after.
I am still in shock at the moment.
She was far from perfect but she was all I had. She struggled with alcoholism, fallout from a fall that hit her head, depression, deepening memory issues, psoriatic arthritis. She was basically bed bound for the most part.
I now face going home to only my cat.
Please pardon me if I do not comment on stories as much.
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We're here for you, not the other way around.
*hugs*
Take care, and if/when you need us, you know where we are.
Do you have anyone who can reach you in case of emergency?
Melanie E.
Deepest condolences
So sorry for your loss Kimmie, have a virtual hug from me.
Huggs
Sammi
Hugs, hon
There's not much I can say, just letting you know that we know and love and respect you in your grief.
Hugs,
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
I don't have the right words
but for what it's worth you have my deepest sympathy. Unfortunately, if to judge from my own experience, it will hurt for a long time.
Don't think about us. We will think about you.
Kimmie, I am so sorry!
Words are insufficient . . . Sending hugs and love.
— Emma
So very sorry ...
I know words pretty much can't help.
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I've got plenty of hug/gles stored up. Pull all you can over the Aether.
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Take care of yourself, and Kitty.
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Please don't make any Big Decisions for a while. You might be "stuffings for brains" for a while.
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If you have people ('virtual' or In Real Life) whom you can talk to, please do.
If you want to, post more here.
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Please take care of yourself, and Kitty.
Huggers!
If there's a book that you want to read, but it hasn't been written yet, then you must write it.”
― Toni Morrison
Condolences
I hope that as you grieve this loss of such a loyal partner, you will find comfort in kind words from friends here, and in whatever way you decide to honor her memory.
Oh Kimmie :(
I'm so sorry. -offers tight hug- We're here if you need anything. <3
I am so sorry
for your news, I wish you peace and solace. If you need to talk to someone, just let me know. Don't forget to look after your cat, they can be a great comfort at times like this.
Angharad
Words Are Never Enough
I know how you feel.
No one can know how you feel.
I've crossed that bridge many times.
Not any help to those who lost loved ones.
kimmie, that you care shows love. Believe she knew you loved her. You gave to her the most priceless gift in the whole world. Your love and your time. Let the sharing of life heal the cracks in your heart. The pieces plated with gold? Those are the times you shared. The empty that doesn't heal? Will be healed not with time but when again you meet.
Hug Kimmie
Barb
Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl
I am heartbroken
Words fail me
Love, Andrea Lena
Take Care of Yourself
Pamper yourself for as long as you need.
Jill
Angela Rasch (Jill M I)
I feel for you
Take some time to grieve. But also take time to remember the good times.
Don't push your friends away, as you will need them more, from now on.
I lost my partner of 55 years in March. So take time out to find yourself, if you can.
Remember She's still with you in spirit and Memories.
Polly J
Losing a partner after so many years is tuff
I, too, lost my partner after 33 years. That was 13 years and 1 month ago. I still miss her every day. The loss never fully goes away, but it does become more bearable. She'd been bedridden for 9 years, MS, and knew her time was near. She insisted she wasn't dying, she was simply getting ready to take her final exam to graduate to the next part of life. One of the last things she told me was that she'd see me in heaven... but that I should take my time.
Boys will be girls... if they're lucky!
Jennifer Sue
I am so very sorry for your loss
sending you a fleet of huggles.
NAVAHO PRAYER FOR YOU
Grieve for me, for I would grieve for you.
Then brush away the sorrow and the tears
Life is not over, but begins anew,
with courage you must greet the coming years.
To live forever in the past is wrong;
can only cause you misery and pain.
Dwell not on memories overlong,
with others you must share and care again.
Reach out and comfort those who comfort you;
recall the years, but only for a while.
Nurse not your loneliness; but live again.
Forget not. Remember with a smile.
There are no words that I can
There are no words that I can say that will make this better for you. Know that you have my deepest sympathies and my best wishes going forward
Willow
Willow
Thank you all
Her passing was sudden. Her heart stopped I think while she was struggling for breath from a very sudden illness. I had asked her if I could take her to the emergency room and she refused. I should've insisted.
I am not alone in the sense I have her family to reach out to as well as my own friend and a good friend's of Laura also.
Laura's health for all the conditions had been getting worse and worse over the last few years.
The continuing slide in language skills was especially alarming, possibly signalling the start of dementia or senility. She was such an articulate and smart person in her heyday. All of her struggles wore her down and she needed me by her side to survive to be frank as she could not hold down a job and such.
But like I said, she was all I had. I have to find a different journey now that I am no longer needed to be strictly a caregiver but at 60 it is a lot more difficult to find a new path forward.
Her family said she told them she knew she would pass before I did but asked them to support me and help me possibly find a happy life.
I saw her for the last time yesterday, just hours before her cremation. I touched her, kissed her forehead, took pictures of her and cut some locks of hair to remember her by and to share with family. I 'talked' to her and expressed my love for her and my hope for her to find the loving God she so believed in that she believe she will meet as soon as that oh so fine silver cord is finally cut.
I pray she is now at piece and with her parents and feeling the joy in her God's love.
But oh God, my home is so lonely without her.
Kimme , the dance
is what life is. we start slowly at first taking timid steps , one foot here then there. Testing looking we are alone for this . We make stumbles and falls as we dance then Life jumps forward as it must ,we find that someone who fits whose curves as we do whose there in a smile and so forth we begin to dance together ,ins outs ups and downs we twirl dip and slowly sway to the special music that life gives us 33 years is a great dance Hold on to the music only you and you partner could hear. you are hurting and i hurt with you.we offer hope love and compassion take it, take as much as you need for we have plenty to give . most of all is that are here.
With sorrow rues
Time...
I pray the passing time eases your heartbreak and the memories, laughs, and love comfort you when you need them the most. Hugz dear Kimmie...
XOXOXO
Rachel M. Moore...
Offering my wish you may rebound from this distress
Life is finite, but I hope fond memories and remembrances of your partner ease a portion of the sorrow you may feel.
Laura must have been a special person
I will add in my hug to the rest of the group. To have a loving partner for such a long time is a real blessing. For those of us that are older, passing of friends and loved ones really hits us hard. Kimmie, I hope you can celebrate her life by remembering all the good times you had together. My thoughts and prayers go out to you. :DD
DeeDee