In my last blog I told everyone that I came out to my sister. A few minites ago I got this email from her.
Steven,
I will always support you!!!!....I will read the web sites...thank you for including them...keep you head up...be the person you feel you need to be....I will call you this week...call me anytime you want...you would be very surprised at the people and lifestyles I have come across in my life...I have a very open mind...
Love,
Krista
God I feel so good.
Thank you everyone. I really appriciate your support.
Comments
Hurray for your sister!
She is a jewel. Hang on to her with all your might! Way too many people have to make the journey without the support of their loved ones. Some lose their entire family in order to become themselves.
It looks like your prayers have been answered. So have mine, since I have been praying for you.
Ray Drouillard
Whew!
Now I can let out that breath I've been holding! I know only too well the sky high stress that goes along with even considering telling someone else. I'm so glad that your sister was accepting of you!
hugs!
grover
You are blessed
This is just awesome. Your sister is definately a keeper =)
Pretty good news
It seems like you have a sister that loves you very much and doesn't judge. There are too few of those in the world.
So is she calling you Steven because she doesn't know to call you Jessica, or is she hanging on to her old image of you?
Bravo! Bravo. Bravissimo!!!
I have been waiting for you to take this step. I didn't want to give you false info, or wrong ideas, as for each of us, this moment of disclosure is different.
I'm proud of you Jessica, and I'm proud to know you. I knew you had this strength inside you, but you needed to bring it out for yourself.
I won't say that it gets easier from here, but you have made a huge step into the rest of your life. Don't look back, hon. Look ahead and keep your eyes on the prize.
Way to go, hon!
Love and huggles from,
Catherine Linda Michel
As a T-woman, I do have a Y chromosome... it's just in cursive, pink script.
tis a funny thing
This strange wandering journey. It's never quite the same for any two people. Similarities and crossover points, but never quite the same. Still in a place like BC if one hasn't been exactly there someone else will have been, or very close. So blog on eh. We're a fairly gentle bunch on the whole in our own nutty way... well speaking personally, the nutty bit, but there is a wealth of experience hereabouts. Congrats on having an understanding sister, that has to help. Highs and lows, ups and downs... they happen, but just be you huh.
Kristina
Wonderful !!!!
That is one down, and it sounds as if your sister will be there with you when you tell your dad.
Don't rush that next step. Give your sister time to get grounded, and do actually talk with her as much as you need to.
HUGs
One of the most difficult things to give away is kindness.
It usually comes back to you.
Holly
One of the most difficult things to give away is kindness.
It usually comes back to you.
Holly
Well, that made me fall into the outhouse!
Amazingly, my siblings are absolutely supportive. They could see it when I was growing up. There was a whole shitload of harbingers then. Rather than tell the whole damn story over again, I should just post my story.
It is the damnable family that I raised that can't think critically.
You'll do OK now.
Just one word of advice...
While how we feel etc is a never ending story for us, we'll talk other people's ears off, don't push it too hard to non-tg folk. Let them come on board at their own speed. Let them ask the questions they want to know about and don't overburden them with info - they'll get bored.
Which means you'd better keep letting off steam here. Oh, and by the way, all good wishes on your journey.
hugs,
Angharad
Angharad
Cherish this sister!
As you expected not all family members are accepting. That your sister IS so accepting is both wonderful and amaizing. She is someone to be cherished. That said, the fact that she is so accepting says something about how you both were raised, which implies your parents may be more accepting than you fear. Life, however is not composed of guarantees.
Good Luck.
Nice thing to return to
Your news was a nice thing to return home to find. Enjoy the excitement while you can. It sounds like after a while you'll just be accepted as a plain old girl. Of course I'm sure that would be nice too!
Way cool!!!
[title says it all]
All Riiiiight !!!
That is great ! *Sigh* I am not above being just a bit jealous though. My oldest brother will not ever accept what I am.
Kim
Courage
You have it. I don't. This one has paid off for you and I'm so happy that you have an accepting sister. I hope that the rest of your family is as good,
Hugs,
Joanne
Woo hoo!
This is such wonderful news!
*doing the happy dance with you*
Writer--Artist--Dreamer
So Jessica, wanna trade sisters?
No, I would never do that to anyone. I'm so happy this is working out like this for you!
And if---heaven forbid---coming out to the rest of the family goes weirdly, you can
look over & know you have at least one person there who really knows & loves you.
~~~hugs, God bless, Laika
Well shit, I guess it really CAN happen here..,
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YAY!
Congrats Jessica, you've got a great sister there (as has already been said hehe)
Wonderful News
Hey! I'm happy for you. :)
Hugs
- Terry
It is a very rare instance
It is a very rare instance when a sibling can accept another for his or her lifestyle or identity. Krista has probably seen things she could write an encyclopaedia of. 5 Stars for Krista, a jewel of a girl.
Be strong, because it is in our strength that we can heal.
Love & Hugs,
Barbara
"With confidence and forbearance, we will have the strength to move forward."
Love & hugs,
Barbara
"If I have to be this girl in me, Then I have the right to be."
By all means if your sister knows of your feminine name
allow her to use it.
If she is supportive of your efforts to become the real you then you have an excellent home support staff beginning.
Where two or more....
I lost both my sister and my brother to lack of understanding, I know how that hurts.
After the first 15 years my Father and I 'made up' and we spent the next twenty in good relations.
My brother and sister were too young to understand. Then when my parents died we suddenly had this wall between us which has now lasted 17 years.
A sister who is accepting and given a little time may find she likes having a sister to talk with will be such a blessing.
God Bless You my prayers will continue
Teddi