The Working Girl Blog #46: An anniversary

The Working Girl Blogs Revision 2.0 Blog #46: An Anniversary To see all of Bobbie's Working Girl Blogs, click on this link: http://bigclosetr.us/topshelf/book/19261/working-girl-blogs

Last week I checked: August 25 last year was the date when I posted my first story here in BCTS. So, today, it's exactly one year later.

Perhaps to many out there, who have been members of the site for a long time - such anniversaries are nothing special, or perhaps for those more forthright than I, more outgoing, and with more of a life than I, this anniversary would not be big deal.

But, for me, in that one short year, I was able to acquire a whole bunch of friends (as well as a few not-exactly-friends), got the gumption to leave a job I wasn't too happy with, had to cope with my sister's stroke that really screwed up the family's life, but in a way it gave me a closer rapport with my sister and my mom and dad, finally paid off all my loans and am finally debt-free, started a new job, which was sort of the start of many things for me, became more courageous in taking risks, experiencing life more, and getting to know the new me better.

I guess all these good things cannot be attributed to just being a member of the site, but in all honesty, a large part of these could.

Reaching out and searching for one's niche in life, one's place in life - it takes more courage than this trans-person has, and only in being part of this community was I able to find enough of it to experiment a bit, take risks and find a kind of happiness that only trans-people crave for.

I'm not saying I've found it, but I think I'm getting there. At least I feel more secure in my own skin than I've ever been. Life isn't perfect. It will never be, I think. But there are shafts of sunshine through the clouds that tell me now that life can be okay. Life cannot be perfect, but life can be okay. A point of view that, I think, is common to us trans-folk. And that's all I'm asking for: not perfection. Just okay.

When I posted my first story, there was one person who wrote a comment forty minutes of my posting it. And through the months she's become a good friend. That is not to say that I haven't made more friends here, but being friends with Andrea will always be a special thing for me. And I will always be grateful for that.

So, I hope you guys are happy for me. And I hope that the next year will be as okay.

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