What it is to be a woman

The story I am writing at the moment has the main character wanting to be a woman, but not wanting any surgery (currently) . It has raised the question for me. What is is to be a women.

Is it the clothes you wear? The role you have in society? The way you act and interact? Your Chromosomes? Or the fact you possess a cervix.

The last one is something a Labour MP has said "only women have a cervix". So is she saying trans men aren't men or women born without a cerix or have had it removed aren't women?

The whole issue is very complex. It is perfectly possible we have all meat women who have male sexual organs under their clothing. They may have lived as a female all their lives. Are these people not women because of a few bits of flesh?

Perhaps this is why there is still a lot of misunderstanding of trans issues, Gender is not a straightforward subject.