Writing an honest Female Character

For over 10 years I had a Phd Psychologist at the VA who I thought at first was a help. Then I realized that she seemed to suck my brains out at each session, and then to sift my consciousness and finally put it back in. One day, I finally understood that and on my way home decided that I'd had my last session with her. I went almost a year without a counselor, then one afternoon, walking up the street realized that there was no reason to live. Not wanting to end it without thinking things out, I walked into the office of a clinic and told them I just wanted to talk to someone to see if it was time to suicide and that I'd like to make an appointment. Much to my surprise I was seeing someone in about an hour and a half.

Pleasantly, we just talk and she does not seem to try to guide or program me. Today, via Video, due to the Corona Isolation thing, I had related my frustration with trying to write a believable female character, and that spilled over to my frustration with the way men often treat women. I told her about a female writer of a Video Game, who had, I thought written a very nice Video game. Her company thought that the game needed to be spiced up, so gave her work to another programer, a male. When he finished, the company liked the results. She looked at what he had done, and her respectfully attired female characters were now indecently attired and there was a great deal more violence in the game. Should I be surprised?

I was amazed that my counselor could hear the story I told and remain calm. I have a profound sense of injustice that women could tolerate such a steady stream of male domination, and that fills me with anger. I can see now that to write a realistic female character is something that is beyond most men and it makes me sad. There are a few male authors who can do it among the herd of them that seem to simply be trying to live out their adolescent fantasies.